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    Say ‘cheese’!

    I remember those days when we still use camera with film.  Camera can be bulky those days.


    Say ‘cheese’!  I love taking pictures.  The problem is that you are not sure whether that’s the best shot you have and you always bring extra  film to take more pictures especially on an important occasions.   We then take the film to be developed, anxiously waiting to see how the photos will turn out.    Once the photos are ready, yeah!! can’t wait to look at it over and over again.   You can get bad news as well, as some photos probably don’t turn out well, eer what they say ‘film over expose’ and you were like ..”there goes my memory”.


    The best part is to make the arrangement in the album, which pictures come before which.. i’m loving that part.   When i had my first child, i have few albums just to put my son’s picture in it, i even have pictures as in slow motion, a few shot for a movement.  I am so crazy with his pictures, i re-arranged everything making sure its nice to see.  I have his picture from the moment he came to this world, everything he does, first steps, first day care.. it is so beautiful.

    Welcome to the digital era! where digital camera and smartphone are taking over and farewell to camera with film.  My daughter ever asked me, why does his brother has more pictures in the album than her and i just told her that digital camera took but we forgotten to print it and put it in the albums.. i am sure that is not the answer she wanted.


    More people nowadays doesn’t mind sharing their pictures to the whole wide world, instagram, twitter, picasa and facebook to name a few social media.   I share some of my family pictures in facebook and blog too but some pictures are personal, there are memories and album where it belong.  This remind me to print the photos in my computer and keep it in the album before i lose it.


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    Why We Need Criticism

    Nobody like to be criticized and told they are wrong.  Most prefer to be praised for everything we do and if they did mentioned it,  at least a pat on the back means a lot to someone.  Unfortunately, we are not perfect and not everyone can give you a good comments or suggestions.   Some people can be very direct to the point and criticism.

    “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body; it calls attention to the development of an unhealthy state of things. If it is heeded in time, danger may be averted; if it is suppressed, a fatal distemper may develop.”


    [New Statesman interview, 7 January 1939]”
    Winston Churchill
    Dealing with criticism
    Criticism are hard to swallow, even myself find it difficult to accept critics given to me by others. Some criticism are destructive and some are constructive.  Some people are natural critics and cynical type of person, they don’t care if they hurt your feeling or not, they just say what they feel not how you feel.
    Accept criticism as a from of feedback by others in order to improve ourselves.  We all learn from mistakes and constructive critics may help in many ways.  Learn to analyze criticism, don’t swallow everything, as too much criticism can kill a soul.
    Be Positive
    Be positive in taking criticism, just consider it as an opinion and if you feel its acceptable then learn from it.  Sometimes critics can’t tell you in a good way but they meant to help you.  Criticism can help you discover your weaknesses and open door for improvement.
    I remember selling my handmade earrings and bracelets, some say it nice yet some sees it as too plain and simple.  I focus on the word ‘plain and simple’ more than the word ‘nice’.  Looking at my creation .. it is look nice but i agree it look plain and simple, instead of feeling upset i begin to learn how to do earrings and bracelets.  I invested money in buying beads and new tools online.
    Magazines and website selling accessories inspired me to try and create different designs.  After many trial and errors, i manage to create few new design but i have problem duplicating if the design is complicated so it become a ‘special edition‘.
    Accept the Challenge
    Critics can put you feel down and angry at times, sometimes when you are criticized, you might react in disagreement especially if you feel its not fair.  Stay calm and walk away.  The best way to handle criticism if you feel that is not right, challenge the critics.  There are always opportunity somewhere, go an learn and prove the critics wrong.
    Instead of accepting that you are in capable in something, search of what you are good at and keep on learning.  The next thing you know you be thankful to the critics.
    Be Open Minded

    Be open mind about criticism.  Criticism make you aware of your weaknesses and it helps to discover your strength.    We assume critics as bad people but if you be open mind about it, they are just telling the truth.   The truth can be painful sometimes and most of the time you don’t see your weaknesses until someone point it out to you.

    When you are criticized, don’t take it personally but take it seriously.   In life, we need both negative and positive feedback in order to learn.  Don’t expect praise too much as sometimes  it can be fake and don’t ignore criticism because it will help you grow.

    Nobody is perfect as we are all learning and the journey of learning is to understand why, who, how, when, what and where.  Whenever you receive criticism, ask yourself the 5W1H questions and start giving your answer in what you can do to improve.
    If someone give you a criticism, give the person a smile, say thank you and walk away.


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    Puppy or Baby?

      “Mum.. i want a pet?” asked my daughter.  She have been bugging me to get a pet for her… but she wanted a puppy.   Looking at www.entirelypets.com, it makes me feel to have a puppy too, but looking at the expenses for the foods and medication, it was like having another baby.   The other important thing to consider is the commitment and the responsibility to handle any pet.

    “You still need me to take care of you, how would you take care of a puppy?” i replied.  She look at me and said “pretty well, i don’t need a puppy but can you give me a baby sister.. pleassseee“.

    puppy-and-babyCan you imagine puppy and baby in the house.. it would be fun!

    Before i could answer her .. “oh! i know!, we can have both, so that we don’t need to choose”.. looking at me with her happy face.  “Err, excuse me, i you need to learn to clean your room and take care of yourself first” i told her.    She insisted she will be a responsible sister.

    Having puppy or baby is a wonderful idea, i can feel the fun, warm and interesting  but at the moment  neither puppy or baby will be in the house.