I remember reading a book by Dr. James Dobson and was listening to the same story today from the a radio station, Traxx FM, ‘Focus on the Family’ by Dr. James Dobson himself. A story about a father who scolded his little girl who was trying hard to wrap a present but wasted the wrapping paper instead. The next day the little girl gave her father a wrap present, the father was happy to receive such gift but when he opened up the box, it was empty. The Father was furious and called his little girl, asked her why she gave her an empty box and it is not right to give somebody an empty box as a gift. The little girl replied with her crying tone “but daddy it is not empty, before i wrap the present, i put all my love and kisses in the box”.
How would you feel if your child say that to you? How would you react? The invisible Love and Kisses from a child. Every child are special, creative and full of imagination. And this reminds me of my own 5 year old girl, i would send her to school every morning but her teacher will bring her to the daycare after school, i will only pick her up from school once in a while and bring her for lunch and send her back to the daycare. She wanted me to pick her up from school everyday, i told her the situation and she can accept it until today, she said “Mummy, can you please pick me up from school, i feel so sad, i am all alone in the class, nobody with me..and sometimes i cry”… I can’t stop imagining how lonely she was, so i decided to peek on her after school. I went there, saw her talking and smiling with other friends and i managed to talk to the teacher without her seeing me. I asked the teacher when will she be left alone? Nope.. she will never be left alone, the teacher said she and other friends will go to the next room before they go to the daycare with another teacher. It is a lie indeed but i look at it as a smart move from the attention seeker. Her is so creative in making story and I, at the other hand, have to be more creative in handling this situation.
We as parents would love to give our children more than just love and care, we give them Medicare plan, insurance, savings, education and anything we want to give them depending on our finance and ability. Sometimes they will come up with so many funny tricks and lie, this can make us so furious but if you think about it, there are messages there are sending to us but they doing it in a creative way. The next time you caught them telling lies, calm down and get creative ideas in dealing with the situation.
Don’t Get Mad, Get Creative!