Imagine 6 out of 10 from your close friends told you that you are ‘out of style’ or you need to ‘upgrade’ yourself… What would you do? Leave it as it is.. or do something about it? Sometimes we don’t see what others see, start analyzing their words.. look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself.. “am i really out of style and do i need to upgrade myself?”

Take their words and start with little steps at a time.. don’t do drastic changes. If you have great attitude you would enjoy changes.. ask their opinion on what should you change, probably only your hair style or your fashion need to tune a little bit.

Do some research, starting from what you’ve been wearing.. is it the color, the pattern or style. Go to a Image consultant if you must, invest a little for a long term. Image is part of branding.. if your Image consultant suggest you to get western belts to go along with long skirt and blouse, try it. If she said you look good with blue navy and pencil skirt suits you, go along with it. Wear what suggested by your Image Consultant and asked those who gave comments to you.

Remember, if somebody give comments, don’t judge them as giving critics.. take it as feedback. Your choice to change and understand what need to change is important. Don’t change because you need to please others but change to make you a better person instead.

I read in a report in  Berita Harian and an article written in Star in October.  It reported that… Mental and psychological torture by their husbands have driven many women to seek divorce.

…” Reasons given to dissolve their marriages include the failure of husbands to fulfill their marital obligations, and using words and actions that were degrading and insulting to the wives and their family.   Even the word like “Whore” can inflict mental anguish on wives, leadint to the end of a blissful relationship.  Under Islamic laws, the women can seek fasakh – which is the dissolution of marriage to any valid reason.  From 2008 to last year, the number of women seeking fasakh had exceeded 14,400 ….”.

In Catholic’s view

“……Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law. It claims to break the contract, to which the spouses freely consented, to live with each other until death.  Sacramental marriage is the sign of the covenant of salvation, to which divorce does incredible injury.. ……..”

“…..The Church responds by saying: “The Lord Jesus insisted on the original intention of the Creator who willed that marriage be indissoluble.  He abrogates the accommodations that had slipped into the old Law.  Between the baptized, ‘a ratified and consummated marriage cannot be dissolved by any human power or for any reason other than death.’”….

quoted from  http://www.archden.org

Doesn’t have to end like this

The word ”divorce’ is taboo in our communities… and for Catholics..the statement above mentioned about it.  I am not trying to discuss about religion or belief, and not trying to offend anybody or judge anyone on this matter.

Why do write about this ‘taboo’ or ‘sensitive issues’? It is easy for others to judge those who have been through this..and it is always the negative side they see and talk about.

More and more organizations are trying to help in solving ‘divorce’ issues, through family talks etc.  It won’t happened unless both parties (husband and wife) understand their meanings and needs.  One unpopular organization trying to tackle ‘Sex issues’ on this matters.  I believe sex is important but don’t they realize about ‘the emptiness’ .. not money, not sex, material.. but that simple appreciation.. don’t we all need that?

Calling your wife ‘whore’ ‘bitch’ ‘sundal’ ‘sial’…. are just as terrible as hitting them.. If you hit them hard and they get bruises all over.. physical abuse ya.. it is.. sooner or later the mark will disappear and people can help these wives..who have been physically abuse.  What about those who have mentally abused? nobody knows.. unless she talk about it… and this is what i am trying to say.. somehow.. she might give in or GIVE UP!

Think of the beautiful moment

For those who say the word as ‘no meaning’… please wake up!.. you don’t have to attend any marriage courses or whatsoever.. just read..and learn what to do and how to protect your marriage.  Probably from now on start thinking of gift ideas for their special day … your wedding anniversary, birthday or anything..surprise her.

Listening to my neighbor’s babies crying, buying baby gifts for relatives and friends .. listening to my girl request.. “Mummy, i want baby sister”.   I say to myself..why not? another child.. that will be great..more kiosk! more love!.

Will i or will i not have babies again.. will get pregnant again?  Some says two are enough but nobody can say how many is enough.. as long as i’m ready ..mentally, physically and financially.. and if God say i am able to conceive again.. there will be additional family members.

If ever i get pregnant again..this time i will blog about my pregnancy from early stages until i delivered.

I understand we cannot stop aging unless we use modern technology to slow it down… using injection or cosmetic surgery.. but no matter how we want to slow it down… sooner or later we will get old.

Accepting the fact that we are aging… appreciating the moment.. not to worry to much thinking how we going to look in the next few years.. continue taking care of your skin,  use mud soap it help restore the skin, drink plenty of water, eat more green and colorful fruits.

Keep your youthful thinking and stay young at heart… think as if you are in your 20s but wiser.  Show more confident and be positive!

Smile! don’t worry if it gives more wrinkles but the more you smile.. the more beautiful you are and the younger you be.

Regards, and happy aging.

Beautiza

What should i do? Eat more?  I never starved myself  but  my hair is kind of long now.. maybe it doesn’t suit my face.  I know it took patience to have a long hair and need extra care.  I love my hair..but i feel so tired to manage it now.

I think..i might look better with short hair.. as how i used to before.   Changing hair style is nice..its part of great feeling..if you feel good.. you will look good.  So i decided to cut my hair as short as this…

or this

Not much different actually.. well wish me luck with my new short hair.

Beautiza

Malaysia is a Muslim-majority country, with some 60 percent of the population practicing the religion, alongside large ethnic Chinese and Indian communities who are mostly Buddhist, Hindu and Christian.

According to local media, the country’s divorce rate doubled from 2002 to 2009, with rates higher among Muslims than non-Muslims.

Maznah said it was also the men’s responsibility to teach their wives to be obedient.

“Some wives, they just want to get married for leisure but they don’t know the responsibility,” she said.

“To entertain their husbands is compulsory. If she doesn’t do this, the husband will look for another woman… and the house will break down.”

Saturday’s launch near the capital Kuala Lumpur will include speeches and a show to demonstrate to women how to be good wives, Maznah said, adding that a similar club was set up in Jordan last month.

Quote from Yahoo News on the launching of The Obidient Wife Club in early June.  I try not to be harsh but honestly i think this is stupid.  It is an insult to women and all religion and belief.

Do you think being Obedient help you keep your happiness..but it sound like a slave to me…  you might keep your husband forever.. but will you be happy?  How about your feeling.. aren’t you human too? don’t you feel women.. wives.. need to be listened..respected.. appreciated?  Do you think entertainment is enough for men? they also want to be heard and respect.  I believe.. ‘communication is the key’.  For sure all the needs are important.. and its a bonus if your wife is a good chef, great housekeeping, caring nurse and sexy… wow..congratulation!.. what a package.  But I bet even if your wife use the best progesterone cream … but you don’t have good communication.. a man will still search somewhere for another obedient housewife.

Lust is easy.  Love is hard.  Like is most important.  ~Carl Reiner

I love being a woman.. we have so many choices of fashion and makeup even though we have to go through labor and pain, carry our family burden and hormone imbalance sometimes…but we still smile and attend to our family.

The time we were tired but we still want to look good.. as if we are the Wonder Woman.

My goal this year..is to be wealthy..inside and out. We all aware that wealth is important but i believe health is a priority. How would you enjoy being wealthy but not healthy.. you don’t want to sit on the wheel chair while shopping… do you?
My aim is to create a healthy life style..starting one step at a time.
There are techniques on how to have a healthy body and mind..using NLP… if you have basic knowledge
about NLP it will be easier for you to try it. Most of the techniques are using mind control, meditation and relaxation without taking any diet pills or metabolism pills .
I will assure you that the techniques will not make you starve.. because dieting is not how much you eat but what you eat.
Before i share the techniques with others, i am learning and adapting it first..no worries.. I will share the ‘secret on healthy diet’ once i succeed.

Beautiza

If you want to look good you need to feel good about yourself.. and vice verca.. you will feel good if you look good.  How do feel if you wear a nice dress?  don’t you feel great about yourself? how confident are you?  How do you feel if you wear a blouse that is not matched your skirt?  you feel like the day are long.. you need to go home and change right away.

Start looking at what yourself…  the saying goes.. ‘don’t judge the books by its cover‘  but remember ‘the first impression is important’.. and i do judge the books by its cover.. and i am sure you do too.  It is like personality, you look at a person on the whole appearance first then you want to get to know the person.. its normal..we are human.

So.. feel good..and be yourself.

theone F l A w I n women
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Women have strengths that amaze men. They bear hardships
and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy, and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel,
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong
when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show
how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love. They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give.
However, if there is one flaw in women, it is this;
They forget their worth and how remarkable they truly are!

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