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    Why He Choose Barber instead of Salon

    Trimming his hair during the weekend, his hair grow so fast. Looking at him sitting there reminds me how hard it was few years back.

    Long time ago when he was younger, having to bring him to to get his hair cut has always been a challenge.It was easier to cut/trimmed his hair when he was younger but as he was bigger, I am afraid Im going to give him a bad hair cut (which i did) and its troublesome to do hair cut at home.

    The Sensory Problem

    Our first attempt to get him a hair cut was at a salon when he was 6 or 7 years old. I thought bringing him to a salon, lady stylist will be a good help instead he had a meltdown, scream and tried to throw a chair.Having sensory problem makes him hates of the sound of the electronic hair trimmer.The smells of shampoo, hair dye and lots of liquid items related to hair treatment can probably affected their sensory.Some salon has lots of picture, decor, color that are very attractive but too striking for those with sensory problem. So I had to continue giving him hair cut at home while he watches the tv or use handphone for distraction.

    The Environment and Location

    Probably at the age of 10, we decided to bring him to a barber shop, the barber was an old man and the shop were very quite and not many people at the time. When he was sitting down, i remember my heart beat so fast and I prayed that he will sit still…and yes he did. It was a success!After the success story, we continue to get his hair cut at the same barber shop and even if the shop were full, we will patiently wait for our turn.Why he prefer barber than salon? The answer is..the environment …not much smell..not much visual distraction…its just plain SIMPLE.

    Little Step at a Time

    So yes that struggle is real but little step we make and the little step they take is a victory.

    “The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda.” John C. Maxwell

    Not like before going to the same barber shop, now we can choose any barber shop convenient, as long as its a barber shop.

    For parents with special needs, why dont you share with me your child’s hair cut experience.

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    Beautiza’s 10 Years Anniversary!

    What a great way to end 2017 by celebrating Beautiza’s 10 years  of blogging.  I wanted to quit blogging because I don’t really have time to update or to write any post but I love sharing my thoughts and feelings.  The best place to share is through writing and it has been a great therapy for me.

    When I decided to call it quit, I did not realised it has been 10 years, so instead of quitting I want to make a fresh start. All these years, I don’t really handle my own blog, I got helped by other bloggers for domain and hosting but I feel its the right time to take ownership of ‘beautiza‘.   Now both Beautiza’s domain and hosting are manage under Exabytes which is affordable with excellent support team members.  If you planning to create a blog, I fully recommend Exabytes for you to get everything started.

    Having to take full charge of this blog is the greatest feeling ever and truly time to celebrate.  Maybe having people to help me makes me too comfortable and too afraid to try.

    I have to go through my bloggers list and found out that there are so many inactive bloggers.  Not sure how many bloggers out there now as I know most bloggers change to other social media platform.

     

    I am grateful to Papajoneh for introducing me to the world of blogging and Ladyjava for being helpful in whatever I asked regarding the blogging world.  Thank you guys!

    I already have great plans for next year! Will make time to celebrate  life, share more adventures and enjoy being a blogger once more.

    Blogging has connected me with so many people out there, met strangers who became my friends.  Blogging has helped me in paying bills and buying things online too.  Its fun!

    As time goes by, we learned more things, experience more in life, the good and bad and sharing these to others might help them if they face the same situation in the future because sharing is caring.

    There are so many things to share, from how to handle autism, using NLP, how to use essential oils and places to visit.  Not sure whats next but life is full of surprises!

    I hope you like this simple, fresh and clean design I made for ‘Beautiza’ because i love it.  Be simple and make life less complicated.  God bless!

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    Tips To Get Autism Ready for Social Gathering and Events

    My parents just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary last Saturday, 29 July 2017.  While we, the family members preparing for the event, i myself busy preparing my mild autism asperger teen, in making sure he know what is going on and how to react on every situation.

    After the celebration last Saturday, i should say its a success.  I am happy the celebration has over but i am celebrating the achievement made by my son.

    It bugs me when people tell me ‘biar saja‘ or  ‘its okay, just let him be’.   Maybe for work for other parents but not me, I don’t want my son to get too excited or too nervous which will lead to meltdown which will later regret and embarrassed him.

    Autism especially asperger are no different from other typical kids, they too have feelings and dignity.  They only need assistance and guidance in whatever they do.

    Let me share what we did before the event last Saturday, probably this will help especially those with special needs child.

    THE PREPARATION

    You will need at least 1 or two weeks to prepare especially if it’s a big event.   Let him know what is the occasion about.  When is it going to be held, how long and who are going to be there.  Be specific and details as you can.

    Most special needs has sensory problems so its good to prepare them using VAK (Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic) technique to get them fully understand.

    VISUAL

    Make it visual, as for my son i just tell him when and he will marked it on the calendar.  I informed my son that there will be music and it might be loud sometimes. I also informed him that he can join any dance if he feels comfortable with, also reminded him that its okay if people look at him or laugh as it does not mean it meant for him.

    You can show your child a picture of their cousins or a wedding picture with crowds just to give them ideas.

    AUDITORY

    Look into their eyes when you speak in making sure your child know your child know you talking to her/him and it is important to listen.  Your tone of voice and facial expression are important in sending them the message. You may need to be strict yet gentle at the same time.

    Each day i reminded him about the event and keep on saying ‘I know you can do it’ and ‘remember to relax‘.

    I let him know all his cousins and other people will be there and possibility of weather, noise etc.  I told my son ..‘the venue might be long, weather might be warm, there will be music and it might be loud…but whatever it is you must relax’.

    KINESTHETIC

    This is the fun part.  We had a role-play of whats going to happened, for example how to interact with people.   We did a role-play on how to react when someone come to him and how to introduce himself to others.

    WHAT CAN AND CANNOT DO

    I keep a reminder on what he can and cannot do. Some simple rules such as..if he is tired..uncomfortable he need to inform me or other family members..this to prevent meltdown. Shouting.. or any unnecessary action are prohibited in public..he may need to relax.

    Remember they learn by rules and they will understand more if we keep on reminding..and it may become good habit.

    ON THE BIG DAY

    What happened on the big day was a success. My son introduced himself and was not ashamed.  The moment there were music..he was dancing and when he hears his cousin sang he actually told me he wanted to sing..probably next time as he don’t really know what song to sing either. But he dance to every music beats..I was with him only at the first songs to make sure he feels comfortable..the rest is history.

    THE SCENT

    I have been using essential oil for a year now and for those having sensory problems..such scents does helps but this does not heal autism. I believe certain essential oils such as vertiver and peace & calming does helps but make sure to apply at time there are ready and in a relax mood. Never apply essential oils when they are moody or having a meltdown.

    THE GOOD AND BAD NEWS

    Yes you just read our achievements ..isnt it good news? it takes 50% of all hardwork, commitment for the early preparations. 20% of the reminder, standby and commitment on that day, 10% of the essential oils scents that helps him keep calm and 20% of his own commitment, focus and self esteem. Bravo my son! We can do it..you can too.😊

    Be remided that autism are just full of surprises..today i might succeed but tomorrow with many things that can triggers and things that of our control i might lose the battle.

    Thats how it goes..just keep on sharing to others about autism and we will never feel alone and those with autism will feel accepted.

    Always be ready with plans. If plan A does not work out..there will always other plans but never gives up.

    Thanks for reading!

    P/S – This is a sharing from my personal point of view as a mother and may not be right from the medical perspective. Every child with autism are different from each other..my tips may not work for others but there are no harm trying.