I am happy to have invested in learning NLP but applying and experiencing to myself makes me more happy.. let me show you the formula.  Okay, you have seen the formula of getting stress.. let me put you in my shoe for awhile, just to get you in the picture.

Okay.. i have seen the differences.. and only little things in common.. I can’t change him..neither he change me.. but i talk to him in a pleasant way just to let him know how i feel.. it takes 100 times..and more.. and you won’t be successful overtime.. try and try again.  Okay now i look at the little things we have in common.. example..we both like cooking.. he cook better than me.. i appreciate when he cook.. i appreciate it everyday..and i start to count my blessings.  How about the differences? well nobody perfect.. keep the differences aside, somehow you will need it.. example.. he loves watching tv.. i don’t..so i asked him about the movie without watching it.. save my time..isn’t it?  If you feel empty inside, look at your children..let them fill you with love..as how you shower your love to  them everyday.

To accept your partner’s differences.. you have to start little by little.. one at a time.. you might fail at first but at the end you will succeed.  Why not make this as one of your goals for 2012.

All the best!..Beautiza

Life is all about balance : Mind : Body : Soul .  We need to feed our Mind, Body and Soul with all necessary… these are few examples :

Mind : feed your mind..with knowledge, learn to think positive, read books..that’s how we exercise our brain.

Body : exercise.. drink plenty of water.. you might need to take post-workout supplements to get you started, just make your body move.. you can dance if you like.. sweat..release the toxin

Soul : how on earth do we feed our soul? practice ‘attitude of gratitude’..learn to be grateful to God, People around you and Yourself!

Find time to meditate.. to pause from worries.. to get in touch with your inner self.. let your Mind, Body and Soul speaks.. and interact.. be in silent.. if you let yourself be with your inner feeling for 5 or 10 minute everyday.. you will learn to understand yourself even better.

If your mind is positive and healthy, your body will get the signal.. and when your body know that your soul is happy.. what do you get? A positive person with great attitude.

Good luck and all the best!

Beautiza

Ready? lets start..

Close your eyes.. and imagine.. you are at a beautiful beach right now.. just imagine what do you want to see.. would you want to be alone? or would you like to have other people to be there?  its all up to you.. its your imagination.. your vacation.. you have the right to feel and imagine whatever you like.

Now.. lay down on the beach.. feel the warm sun touches your skin.. relax yourself.. feel the breeze touches your face.. and smell the ocean.

Continue relaxing yourself..imagine of letting go the sadness.. your anger.. your stress there..   once you are ready to wake up.. just open your eyes.. I am sure you will feel great after your ‘mind vacation’.

Happy Mind Vacation

Beautiza

Sometimes we try hard to look good to others and sometimes we even have to pretend.  In the corporate world especially, i see people changes their mood and mask when meeting with their bosses or clients, just to make the great impression.   Why can’t we be ourselves? just have the conversation the way you have it with other people but just learn to check with the situation and learn how to interact with different people.

You want to be yourself, start analyze what can be done.. just like any Personalized Jewelry, how you want it too look..what would be the color, the shapes, how would you make it attractive?  so that people can be attracted to see it again and again.  I believe everything start with sincerity, with a smile.. a sincere smile and when you talk.. make your eyes talks too. How? you may say.. well.. play with it..not wink..ok.. just make an impression with your eyes.. your eye brow.. Not sure? ok look in the mirror..and start talking.. talk with an angry tone, now look at your eyebrow, now..talk with your smile.. make it happy.. look at your eyes.  Practice talking with a smile and play with your eyes, how it moves but dont over do it… you will look silly.. just practice, you will easily know how when you use to it.

Your voice and intonation plays a very important role in talking too and your facial impressions, how relax are you, how sincere are you or how friendly you are.  Again you need to practice and learn!

Remember to be sincere when you talk to people, they will remember you if you  give a good impressions!

Beautiza

When you START reading this, you will not STOP until the END of the story because you want to know what your LEARNING STYLE are.

Have you ever wonder why when you read a book, you can’t seem to get it in your head and you try to read it all over again?  but did you notice that if you read aloud, you will remember better?  I am one of them, who like doing that, sound weird but that is my style.

Some of you prefer writing down things you want to remember, you will remember them better that way and you prefer looking at the person talking or giving instruction to you, that will help you focus.

And others learn or memories best using flashcards or notes, you need to feel and touch to remember information or details.

Which one of the above is related to you? You not sure? Well, i will make your life easier and this is not only for you but also you children.

You can help do this quiz on behalf of your children because you know your children best then you can find out what is  your child’s learning strategies. Don’t try hard doing how other people learn, their style of learning are different from yours.

You need to know whether you or your child’s is Visual, Auditory or Kinesthetic .  Try this quiz just CLICK HERE. If you want to know more about this topic, please do not hesitate to drop any questions in my email and no spam please.

You will find it is easier to make your child learn from now on.  If you read my post about my son, how active he was and still is, he is in the Visual and Kinesthetic’s categories, so i use both method to teach him.  He like online activity to learn because he memories better with what he sees but  laptop insurance is a must since its going to be using laptop most of the time.  When doing homework, I give him break time 3-5 minutes during the the learning and most of all for my son, i give praises to encourage.  Not to much, as simple as ‘you see you can do it!‘, or ‘i knew you can spell that’!

We are not STUPID, we just need to find out our learning style and you will be amazed on how SMART you really are!

Beautiza

1. Think for yourself.  Very confident people know what they are doing is right, usually because they created an original thought rather than attempting to reproduce from an external source.
2. Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good.  focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed.  It doesn’t have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life.  Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
3. Find your passion.  Whether it’s baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musicianship, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognising what you enjoy doing the most.  More importantly, you’ll be enjoying your progress.
4. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous.  Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and spiritual.
5. Focus on others. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others may perceive you . Instead, focus more on the outside world rather than just your internal world, and that will build your confidence as other people start enjoying your company.
6. Accept compliments gracefully.  Don’t roll your eyes and say, “yeah, right,” or shrug it off.  Take it to heart and respond positively (“Thank you” and a smile works well).  Know that you have important things to say and do.  When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people.  Be yourself.
7. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet.  Don’t abuse your body, don’t overload it, and don’t deny it any of the things it needs.  Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance.  In order to be truly confident, you absolutely must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
8. Work out.  This is a real fast change.  The gym can transform even the last geek.  It will help you be who you are, and not be afraid of it.  that’s the real confidence.  Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly.  Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more “worthy” you could say, to talk to others and to be yourself.
9. Stick up for yourself.  If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way,) then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone – most of all yourself.  This may, at first, be hard to do.  But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
10. Celebrate your individuality.  If you know you’ve got something special or different, then embrace it; don’t hide it.  that’s diversity.  you may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinner, stronger, whatever the case may be.  But you need to realise that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn’t be who you are.  “What am I?”  you ask; the answer’s easy : you’re a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
11. Take action.  It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be.  and the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand.  It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months.  It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interest you that you haven’t done yet.  Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
12. Make eye contact with others, especially when engaging in conversation.  Gaze into the other person’s eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident.  Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry and scared.
13. Smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident.  You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed.

Sharing with you article from NST, dated August 11, 2010.

Before you watch this video.. you might be wondering ‘how to be assertive’ and how it will show, you will see it in a moment, then you will realized that we usually use the ‘don’t’ approach.. dont believe me? check this out!

Communication Skills:
How To Be Assertive

Simple, simple and simple!

I noticed that when i want to visit other blogs, i most likely attracted to their template then it’s content.  I believe attractive template can help increase traffic and make visitors feel comfortable coming back for more.  Then i decided to hire a ‘blog makeover’ to do the job.

Notice the big difference?  I hope this new look will easily attract you to come and visit.

She started giving me draft once we seal our deal, one draft after another, i wanted the template to be realistic, that is my family, me, my husband and my two children.  This blog is our home,  i want to feel it as home, as comfy as it can be, i can write easily when i feel calm and comfortable.  My husband given me the idea on where and who should be.  She did a tremendous job until she came to the final, she let me choose two template for the final touch.  Not only she satisfied me with her masterpiece but her attitude, she is so calm and she handle my fuss patiently.

If you feel like you need to upgrade your blog, just let LadyJava Creations do it for you! Not only she satisfied me with her masterpiece but her attitude, she is so calm and she handle my fuss patiently.

Thank you LadyJava, you really make my blog feel like home.

Beautiza

]]> http://www.beautiza.com/2010/07/30/beautizas-makeover/feed/ 7 http://www.beautiza.com/2010/07/03/how-to-look-and-feel-sexy/ http://www.beautiza.com/2010/07/03/how-to-look-and-feel-sexy/#comments Sat, 03 Jul 2010 07:37:26 +0000 shirley http://www.beautiza.com/?p=2391 To feel SEXY doesn’t mean you need to have the body of a supermodel, you can feel and look sexy with what you have now.. chubby, skinny, short ..The secret to feel sexy is having an inner confidence in yourself , being comfortable with what you have and also having a good self esteem, its how you bring yourself, how you talk to others… it is a package of a great personality. Be yourself!

Love yourself. Accepting what God given you, from the shape of your face, eyes, nose, lips.. appreciate what you have. When you start to accept your looks and your body, you will love yourself, you push away those heavy obstacles that prevent you from feeling good about yourself, from feeling sexy. Read self-help books that can help you create that positive outlook about yourself so that you could start to like yourself a lot.

Really want to know how to look good or sexy? lets start..

FACE.

Put on makeup, start with the basic, mosturizer, foundation and blusher. Makeup for daylight are natural, don’t make it so obvious. Makeup is to make you look good not to change how you look.

Okay now look yourself in the mirror… which part of your face do you see that is attractive?

Your eyes? look at your lips..smile, is it your lips?

now if you feel you have sexy looking eyes.. put on nice colour – learn the technique on how to apply eyeshadow.. shimer eyeshadow look nice..don’t forget to curl the eyelashes and shape the eyebrow.

if you have sexy smile, wear a lipstick colour that suits you and don’t forget to add gloss..glossy lips look sexy.. and don’t forget to smile.

HAIR.

How do I know what shape face

I have? All you need is a mirror, Alice band and never to be used again lipstick.

1. Sit in front of the mirror and slick your hair back with the Alice band.

2. Use the lipstick to draw around your face in the mirror. Move away from the mirror and look at the shape.

3. Look at the black shapes next to each model below and choose the shape that matches yours the best..Square, Oval, Round, Heart or Long.

Can’t view anything? click this..Ukhairdresser to view and start searching your hairstyle that suits you.

BODY.

Okay this is very important, sexy doesn’t mean to show off… wearing shorts, show your skin, sexy is how you dress, the right dress to the right shape.. show your figure.. your curve..again..not your skin. Whatever body shape you have you only need to maintain it with the right exercise and right fitness equipment.

Okay now ..stand up straight in front of the mirror.. look at yourself..try to determine what body shape you have.. are you :

Hourglass Figure

Inverted Triangle

Triangle or Pear Shape Body

Rectangle

Oval

Diamond

Not sure which one is your body type.. no worry i have did everything for your easy reference.. now..click this stylemakeover..

Analise your own body and you are ready to check out what style of dress or accessories suits your body.

Once you have done all the above.. you can start walking with confident.. i said confident not with pride.. walk straight..look up and don’t forget to smile to others.

Are you feeling sexy? with the tips i have given you.. you will look sexy in no time.

All the best to the new sexy you!

Beautiza

When we feel stress.. we will feel the whole body involves.. we tend to swallow any pill that helps.. but now we all go back to the basic… our sense of smell and listening to music.. The smell that can calm your nerves..and even can cure illness….they can help blend it for you to give you the right combination of what you need.. ever heard of aromatherapy? i know somebody who is doing this business. As for the music.. it is not any ordinary music…does Alphamusic familiar to you? …it is specially composed for relaxing, calming and other illness.    Both are natural therapies for our mind.   Don’t worry i will post about this two subject soon…let me get the outcome from it first then i can share with you.

So the next time you feel stress, anxiety, emotion don’t look for pill… try the scent and music. There are so many testimonial that i feel.. ‘to good to be true’ sometimes..no need to get apidexin reviews anymore… but if you don’t believe it..then try it!

Good luck and be sure to get the right aroma..

Beautiza