BEAUTIZA

A friend forwarded me this email and find it very interesting.. check this out…

Correct timing to take water, will maximize its effectiveness to Human body.

Two (02) glass of water – After waking up –  Helps activate internal organs

One (01) glasses of water  - 30 minutes before meal – Help digestion

One (01) glass of water – Before taking a bath – Helps lower blood pressure

One (01) glass of water – Before sleep  - To avoid stroke or heart attack

Interesting article to share with everybody… i drink a glass of water every morning.. before doing anything.. water is a start..it becoming my routine.

They said water is also a best fat burner..with correct exercise or workout you can get rid of that extra fat in your body… and now with this information, you might want to try it..but i don’t really like the last one.. i want my tummy empty before i got to sleep … i don’t like going to the toilet..i want a beauty sleep without disturbance… well..if its good..then..why not?

Now you know the correct timing to take water… pour the water in your glass…and….Cheers!!

1. Be yourself! This means doing what you want, achieving your goals not living up to others expectations because this is your life.
2. Accept and forget.  Write down all your flaws everything you don’t like about yourself.  Divide them into three columns: Worth Worrying about, Who Cares, and Why is it Even On This List?
3. Eliminate!Identify places or people or things that make you feel uncomfortable eliminate it from your schedule.
4. Forget others’ opinions.  If you feel hurt because someone’s remarks, they were probably covering up for their own insecurities.
5. Learn to forgive.  Forgive and forget.  Everyone makes mistakes.
6. Enjoy yourself! Life is short. Live it well.  Never back down from an obstacle and always remember, you are you.
7. Have a good laugh everyday.  laughter has been proven to help you relax, boost your immune system, protect your heart, and help you feel good in general.
8. Enjoy what you do.  Don’t let anyone get you down because they don’t do it, or they don’t like it.  Accept and approve of yourself, because you are unique.

from NST, Oct 15, 09.

Apart from all the above.. i will be more happy if have more money after paying bills online, insurance online.. but after i paid everything.. i have less in the account.. so i hope i will learn how to be happy without thinking about my savings.

Making a spending plan is not fun for most people, but it may be beneficial to get your financs back intor healthy shape.  a spending plan deals with handling certain expenses with structure and a finite amount of money.  By having a spending plan, you will protect yourself from spending too much or getting tempted to buy things you can’t afford with a credit card.

1. First make a list of your general monthly expenses.  Do not include utilities or residential payments which can be imporved with good habits.  What you should list are items or products you pay for on a regular basis and entertainment expenses, which you can directly change.
2. After you have listed your expenses for entertainment, food and other misc items, it is time for you to take out the receipts.  You should always keep receipts for at least a month.  Write down how much you spend on average in the past month on everything on the list.
3. Figure out where you may be able to cut down on your spending.  The whole point of a spending plan is to prevent you from over spending, but it also helps you save money in general.
4. Regardless if you found something to  cut down on or not put a budget on each of the expenses on your spending plan.  Make sure you are comfortable with the budget on each item, as that total will be non-negotiable!
5. Finally, set aside the amount as the budget for each expense in separate envelopes.  This money will be used to pay for things in your spending plan.  You will not be adding more money to any envelope until the end of the following month.  This will help you practice discipline and good habits in spending money!

Article from NST dated 14 Oct 2009

Sometimes we stuck in our daily routine.. weekdays working, weekend busy at home… our husband, children seems don’t get enough of us…hahaha.  Well that’s how it suppose to be.. they need us and we care for them… but for some reason we need to have our own space.

You have been a great mother and wife … but don’t forget to take care yourself.. your health, your appearance… the woman in you.    Life is short .. and you never know when it end.. get wild once in a while.. and get back on track.. experience challenge.. and fight back.. you will know the reason for living! Get control of your life… we get emotional when we feel hurt or feel unappreciated but we have to be positive in life.. you don’t need Morristown personal injury lawyer to tell you what to do…do something that will make you happy or feel good.

Go out from your cocoon… and be a butterfly… go trim your eyebrow, curl your eyelashes, change your hairstyle..make sure it suits you, wear that sexy dress… be beautiful.. feel beautiful..look good and you will feel good!

Sometimes we tend to forget how interesting life can be… we let emotion lead us, we worry to much, think too much, scared.. these clouds our mind which causes stress.

Things happened for a reason, just be thankful for everything.. don’t get overjoyed, don’t over react…   Someday, somebody might come to you and say ‘i like you even though i know your status’..just be glad and get over it… meaning your appearance are still acceptable.. lol.. isnt that wonderful.. this lead to temptation but its up to you to handle it.

Our emotion created by our mind and heart, follow your instinct, pray and let your mind do wonders.  Life is short, appreciate every details in life, our family, loving husband, children, friends, relatives, career, my friend taught me to list all these, it surely make me feel good and feel appreciated as well.  Let go of the guilt, worries,  negative thinking or you ended up taking diet pill reviews after loosing weight.

You can also talk to a friend but its hard to find trusted friend nowadays… but i assure you there are still loyal friend out there, i still have them and i sometimes depend on them.  I sometimes feel my friend know me better then i do and i appreciate that.

Cheers!!

The favorite day… shopping spree with my best friend.. Cay.. she posted about this so i just posted pictures that were taken by me.. well by us.. from my camera..lol.

I was out from the house at 9.30am… my husband had to take care of the children at home… we reached back home at 7.30pm.. take that.. these two mummies had real fun… eating…..chit chatting…laughing….walking…& shopping…

we rounded few places in bukit bintang.. but ended up shopping in Jaya Jusco Wangsa Maju.. really jalan2 oh..  2 kali naik LRT lagi tu.. oh mann..

oh..ya.. BE CAREFUL IF YOU SHOP IN BUKIT BINTANG SHOPPING COMPLEX… it happen that cay wanted to find a purple dress.. so while we were looking at a few boutiques.. i stepped into a boutique.. the salesgirl as me to go inside the boutique.. deep inside..i think were they keep their stock..it was devided by a cloth .. like a curtain.. inside another girl was eating.. they show me a few purple dresses… by then i heard my friend calling my name from outside..’shirley! shirley!..di mana kau?’,  i replied from inside.. but the salesgirls didnt even bother to open the .. i told them.. she is my friend.. they still refused to open.. when i told them… she was the one looking for the purple dress..then they react.. calling her in.

Inside… cay was given few dresses to choose…macam main paksa oh… she gave big discaunt to cay… a calculater in her right hand and a plastic bag in her left hand.. getting ready to put the dress in..and get payment..

Cay told the girl that we will be back.. need to do survey.. the salesgirl reluctant to let us go… when i asked to open the curtain..she did not do anything.. lucky it was only a cloth.. it was like sneaking out from there… phew.. once we got out from the boutique.. we walk very fast…so scary oh… imagine if she put a knife on us… touch wood!

Always stay with your friend! Do not follow the salesgirl if she bring you inside the shop.. where nobody can see you.. maybe that is their new marketing tactic.

We reached Jaya Jusco Wangsa Maju at 4.00pm.. so it was limited time frame to do shopping.. lol… sales until 70%..  i did not buy any lingerie panties.. i bought mostly office wear and ready made baju kurung… worth the price.. i love Scarlet brand… i wore most of it and its all from Jaya Jusco..

We had a great time.. anybody wants to join for the next shopping spree?… we love shopping!!!

Children spend one-half of their waking hours in school or school related activities.  Studeis show that children whose parents are involved in their education do better in school than children whose parents are not involved.  Parents’ involvement in their children’s education is a stronger indicator of their success in school than cultural background, sosio-economic level of the family, or natural individual level of academic capability.

Two activities parents can do to help their children succeed in school are :

Set up a study time at home – Completing homework helps children learn and retain new information.  It imporves understanding and enhances academic performance.  Begin small and work towards the ideal setting.  Some helpful suggestions :

Establish a central location

Keep are quite and free of distractions

Schedule time that best fits family routines

Divide study time for children who have difficulty with concentration

Have you child do their homework first before other activities

Communicate effectively with your child’s school.  This may not be easy to do but can be extremely helpful to your child’s success.  Some helpful suggestions :

When attending school activities, prepare yourself with questions or concern that you want to address.

Begin communication when things are going well with your child.  give compliments to the teacher through notes or phone conversations. When there are problems, share concerns while they are small.  Ask how thing are going.

An interesting article to share with all of you...Taken from Youth & Parenting (Daily Express, dated 11 March 2009)

As a mother.. it is my duty to make sure my children listen to me.. and it is not easy to persuade them or to make them obey to you entirely… i always make my time to checkout information and ask Dr. Sears for guidance and the right techniques on handling children or teenagers….. don’t worry if you don’t have time to go there.. i will update you with articles that interest me and sure will help you parents out there… cheers!!

25 WAYS TO TALK SO YOUR CHILDREN WILL LISTEN

A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some talking tips we have learned with our children:

1. Connect before you direct
Before giving your child directions, squat to your child’s eye level and engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how to focus: “Mary, I need your eyes.” “Billy, I need your ears.” Offer the same body language when listening to the child. Be sure not to make your eye contact so intense that your child perceives it as controlling rather than connecting.

2. Address the child
Open your request with the child’s name, “Lauren, will you please…”

3. Stay brief
We use the one-sentence rule: Put the main directive in the opening sentence. The longer you ramble, the more likely your child is to become parent-deaf. Too much talking is a very common mistake when dialoging about an issue. It gives the child the feeling that you’re not quite sure what it is you want to say. If she can keep you talking she can get you sidetracked.

4. Stay simple
Use short sentences with one-syllable words. Listen to how kids communicate with each other and take note. When your child shows that glazed, disinterested look, you are no longer being understood.

5. Ask your child to repeat the request back to you
If he can’t, it’s too long or too complicated.

6. Make an offer the child can’t refuse
You can reason with a two or three-year-old, especially to avoid power struggles. “Get dressed so you can go outside and play.” Offer a reason for your request that is to the child’s advantage, and one that is difficult to refuse. This gives her a reason to move out of her power position and do what you want her to do.

7. Be positive
Instead of “no running,” try: “Inside we walk, outside you may run.”

8. Begin your directives with “I want.”

Instead of “Get down,” say “I want you to get down.” Instead of “Let Becky have a turn,” say “I want you to let Becky have a turn now.” This works well with children who want to please but don’t like being ordered. By saying “I want,” you give a reason for compliance rather than just an order.

9. “When…then.”
“When you get your teeth brushed, then we’ll begin the story.” “When your work is finished, then you can watch TV.” “When,” which implies that you expect obedience, works better than “if,” which suggests that the child has a choice when you don’t mean to give him one.

10. Legs first, mouth second
Instead of hollering, “Turn off the TV, it’s time for dinner!” walk into the room where your child is watching TV, join in with your child’s interests for a few minutes, and then, during a commercial break, have your child turn off the TV. Going to your child conveys you’re serious about your request; otherwise children interpret this as a mere preference.

11. Give choices
“Do you want to put your pajamas on or brush your teeth first?” “Red shirt or blue one?”

12. Speak developmentally correctly
The younger the child, the shorter and simpler your directives should be. Consider your child’s level of understanding. For example, a common error parents make is asking a three-year- old, “Why did you do that?” Most adults can’t always answer that question about their behavior. Try instead, “Let’s talk about what you did.”

13. Speak socially correctly
Even a two-year-old can learn “please.” Expect your child to be polite. Children shouldn’t feel manners are optional. Speak to your children the way you want them to speak to you.

14. Speak psychologically correctly
Threats and judgmental openers are likely to put the child on the defensive. “You” messages make a child clam up. “I” messages are non-accusing. Instead of “You’d better do this…” or “You must…,” try “I would like….” or “I am so pleased when you…” Instead of “You need to clear the table,” say “I need you to clear the table.” Don’t ask a leading question when a negative answer is not an option. “Will you please pick up your coat?” Just say, “Pick up your coat, please.”

15. Write it
Reminders can evolve into nagging so easily, especially for preteens who feel being told things puts them in the slave category. Without saying a word you can communicate anything you need said. Talk with a pad and pencil. Leave humorous notes for your child. Then sit back and watch it happen.

16. Talk the child down
The louder your child yells, the softer you respond. Let your child ventilate while you interject timely comments: “I understand” or “Can I help?” Sometimes just having a caring listener available will wind down the tantrum. If you come in at his level, you have two tantrums to deal with. Be the adult for him.

17. Settle the listener
Before giving your directive, restore emotional equilibrium, otherwise you are wasting your time. Nothing sinks in when a child is an emotional wreck.

18. Replay your message
Toddlers need to be told a thousand times. Children under two have difficulty internalizing your directives. Most three- year-olds begin to internalize directives so that what you ask begins to sink in. Do less and less repeating as your child gets older. Preteens regard repetition as nagging.

19. Let your child complete the thought
Instead of “Don’t leave your mess piled up,” try: “Matthew, think of where you want to store your soccer stuff.” Letting the child fill in the blanks is more likely to create a lasting lesson.

20. Use rhyme rules.
“If you hit, you must sit.” Get your child to repeat them.

21. Give likable alternatives
You can’t go by yourself to the park; but you can play in the neighbor’s yard.

22. Give advance notice
“We are leaving soon. Say bye-bye to the toys, bye-bye to the girls…”

23. Open up a closed child
Carefully chosen phrases open up closed little minds and mouths. Stick to topics that you know your child gets excited about. Ask questions that require more than a yes or no. Stick to specifics. Instead of “Did you have a good day at school today?” try “What is the most fun thing you did today?”

24. Use “When you…I feel…because…”
When you run away from mommy in the store I feel worried because you might get lost.

25. Close the discussion
If a matter is really closed to discussion, say so. “I’m not changing my mind about this. Sorry.” You’ll save wear and tear on both you and your child. Reserve your “I mean business” tone of voice for when you do.

Good luck parents!! Cheers!!