Imagine 6 out of 10 from your close friends told you that you are ‘out of style’ or you need to ‘upgrade’ yourself… What would you do? Leave it as it is.. or do something about it? Sometimes we don’t see what others see, start analyzing their words.. look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself.. “am i really out of style and do i need to upgrade myself?”

Take their words and start with little steps at a time.. don’t do drastic changes. If you have great attitude you would enjoy changes.. ask their opinion on what should you change, probably only your hair style or your fashion need to tune a little bit.

Do some research, starting from what you’ve been wearing.. is it the color, the pattern or style. Go to a Image consultant if you must, invest a little for a long term. Image is part of branding.. if your Image consultant suggest you to get western belts to go along with long skirt and blouse, try it. If she said you look good with blue navy and pencil skirt suits you, go along with it. Wear what suggested by your Image Consultant and asked those who gave comments to you.

Remember, if somebody give comments, don’t judge them as giving critics.. take it as feedback. Your choice to change and understand what need to change is important. Don’t change because you need to please others but change to make you a better person instead.

What is the best gift to give to our parents or older relatives? Flowers, picture frames or album with family pictures, matching t-shirts?..yup..sometimes we don’t know what to give them, wrong gifts will give wrong impressions and judgment upon you. Imagine giving a watch or clock, they might think you want them to die faster, or if you want to buy them perfume or cologne, they thought they are just too smelly for you . This might sound funny to you but older people are sensitives and we want to make them happy but giving the wrong gift can make them feel down or depressed.

Well.. have you ever consider giving them Medicare supplement plans for seniors? It doesn’t sound really cool but its worth for them… it is all they need… medication, advice and security. Health is wealth, wealth is from within us, if we are healthy we can do anything we like.

I was searching for good medicare supplement plans, not only i found great plans but also medical advice. The solution is just clicking MayoClinic.com. Such an interesting place where you can find information about health and you can even get a doctor for any advice.

Life is easier nowadays, what you need to do is search for the best and click to get the best.

All the best!

I will be taking leave for 2 weeks and that makes me a temporary SAHM ( stay at home mum).   I will be spending more time with them but thinking how to spend less.   Working in the office is pretty much relax then at home….

But some says..better stay at home.. let me find out about that..

Now i am thinking of the  menu, what to cook for breakfast, lunch..dinner.

Planning where to go and  places to visit…what activity should i give them at home..coloring, craft, play their toys or  cooking..  I know its going to be a very interesting and busy week for me.   I better starting writing my ‘to do list’.. i hope i don’t need to write a long list… ‘to buy list’… groceries.. now i remember i need to get one of the amt pumps to get the water working.

Better get my mind thinking and planning.. how,what,where,when..  hopefully won’t get myself stress.. and busy with the house thingy.

Going out just the three of us.. just hanging out with them.. more spending.. eat! eat! and eat!.. at home the same thing we do.. eat! eat! eat!.. and at the same time.. my mind scanning the whole house.. what should i change, what i need to get rid.. and what i need to buy..  i shouldn’t think about this.. my mind should be resting.. my money should be resting.. huhu.    I had something in my mind that i wanted.. i was looking at my  door and i thought why not get door kick plate.  It made of a strong metal or base like metal and can actually be used for what its name describes. You can kick it with your shoes to get any grass,  dirt, etc off of your shoes before coming into your home. This helps prevent you from tracking dirt and other unwanted particles into your home and leaves them outside for Mother Nature to handle.

Door kick plates provide a great decorative feature to your door. You can find colors and materials that match your door or other accents in your home, and it will actually make it stand out quite a bit.  It can also act as a reflective measure for you to see where you are going at night… tempted to buy door kick plate? well.. i know i do.

I better stop thinking about what to buy for the house and start thinking where to go with my children.   I can always find money to buy what i want.. anytime..but i can’t always have time to be with my children.. love is more expensive..and i got to spend it wisely.

Actually i had that same thought too when i was single.. i was searching for the ‘perfect partner’.. the ‘Mr. Right’.. but i couldn’t find one with the criteria i have been looking for… but i made a promise to myself that i will get married before the age of 30.. so i did.

If you asked me if i married ‘Mr. Right’? looking with my life now.. my husband helps me with the children, the house chores and he is a better ‘chef’ than me.. i said Yes i did.  But there were times.. when we fight about certain issues, to be honest, sometimes i asked myself.. ‘is he actually Mr.Right’.. hahaha.  That silly questions pop up usually when we disagree on something.

We are the opposites, i am very talkative.. if i start talking..its like the machine gun.. non stop.. and i am full of sense of humor.. love to laugh.. while he on the other hand.. is the relax and steady kind of guy.  I believe God make the two of us become one because of these differences.  I just have to accept the differences and i am unable to change him, as he can’t change the way i am.  Accepting differences is one of it but good communication is important.  How does your partner know how you feeling if you don’t express it?  and if you express it in the angry tone.. sure you will get a high pitch tone too.

We are not the perfect couple.. marriage is a journey.. in this journey, we get to know each other more, we get to know our partner’s weaknesses and strength.  I realize that when i’m feeling down after a fight.. i will look at his weaknesses.. i try to search for more bad things he have done to me.. and i feel more depress.. and it is stupid.  Now whenever i am angry, i take a moment to look at his best side.. what good things he have done to me.. and how wonderful he is.. even the smallest thing.. i feel better.  Nobody is perfect.. and we are not perfect ourselves.

If you ready for a proposal, go buy the stainless steel partner rings.  But whatever type of ring or how expensive the ring is, its not worth of the value of your relationship.  Why couple get married? is it because they find ‘the perfect partner or the One’.. but why they get divorce? do they realized the person their married..was not ‘the one’?

A wedding is just for a day.. but the marriage is a journey.. A journey that need Respect and Love from each other.. and my marriage have a far distance to go… and still learning.  May you find ‘the One’ for you.. but don’t be surprise that sometimes ‘the one’ for you is actually someone you already know for years.

Its October!.. i remember there is something special about this month.. ‘what was it?’.. Oh!.. my mummy’s birthday on the 3rd October.. she is 60? unbelievable..she still look the same to me.. my beautiful mother.. with forgiving heart and humble down to earth.  Rose.. as beautiful as the flower..strength from deep within your heart.

How can i be like her.. i can’t be like her.. i guess the best is just be myself and taking her best part in me.  What best gift can i give her? diamond necklace is not her choice either she feel wearing jewel are just to much.. even precious pearl is another highlight for her..

Oh… dear mummy, i can’t give you much.. not much materials i can offer you.. but my LOVE for you.. and how thankful i am to have such beautiful and wonderful mother.

May God always give you good health and great happiness!

your daughter,

Shirley

Listening to my neighbor’s babies crying, buying baby gifts for relatives and friends .. listening to my girl request.. “Mummy, i want baby sister”.   I say to myself..why not? another child.. that will be great..more kiosk! more love!.

Will i or will i not have babies again.. will get pregnant again?  Some says two are enough but nobody can say how many is enough.. as long as i’m ready ..mentally, physically and financially.. and if God say i am able to conceive again.. there will be additional family members.

If ever i get pregnant again..this time i will blog about my pregnancy from early stages until i delivered.

Its diamond!.. super excited..now you going to wear it everyday..you need to learn how to care for your engagement ring.. making sure it will always shine and spark.

Well.. don’t just let your ring spark .. make sure your love sparks more and more each day ..and may your love with your fiance not only last for the wedding day..but forever will be.

So..you are engaged, next will be the on the way to the altar..to say ‘I Do’.

God Bless!

Beautiza

How would you feel if your child say that to you? How would you react? The invisible Love and Kisses from a child. Every child are special, creative and full of imagination. And this reminds me of my own 5 year old girl, i would send her to school every morning but her teacher will bring her to the daycare after school, i will only pick her up from school once in a while and bring her for lunch and send her back to the daycare. She wanted me to pick her up from school everyday, i told her the situation and she can accept it until today, she said “Mummy, can you please pick me up from school, i feel so sad, i am all alone in the class, nobody with me..and sometimes i cry”… I can’t stop imagining how lonely she was, so i decided to peek on her after school. I went there, saw her talking and smiling with other friends and i managed to talk to the teacher without her seeing me. I asked the teacher when will she be left alone? Nope.. she will never be left alone, the teacher said she and other friends will go to the next room before they go to the daycare with another teacher. It is a lie indeed but i look at it as a smart move from the attention seeker. Her is so creative in making story and I, at the other hand, have to be more creative in handling this situation.

We as parents would love to give our children more than just love and care, we give them Medicare plan, insurance, savings, education and anything we want to give them depending on our finance and ability. Sometimes they will come up with so many funny tricks and lie, this can make us so furious but if you think about it, there are messages there are sending to us but they doing it in a creative way. The next time you caught them telling lies, calm down and get creative ideas in dealing with the situation.

Don’t Get Mad, Get Creative!

Beautiza

Start a new chapter of a two different people, which made promise to God..and became one.  A married life.. for how long? nobody know.. nobody can guess.  These two people, the husband and wife.. start their life.. they learn their PAST.. they appreciate NOW and eager for the FUTURE.

My parents celebrated their 39th Wedding Anniversary today, 29 July 2011 in a simple but with wonderful meanings.  I am proud to have them as my parents.. i have seen their struggle to brought us up..the ups and down in their relationship but they never give up.

My parents, Mr. Bonnie Hunggim and Mdm. Rose Indus Insing

My parents with, mum’s sister Mdm. Janet and husband Mr. Severin Wong

They have given us unconditional love.. now they travel a lot and spreading the word of God to others.. their choice to do whatever they want, they have done a great job taking care of us and still the Best!

What else can we, the children give back to them… seniors life insurance is the best give..but the best of all.. is always showing Appreciation, giving Attention, lots of LOVE and prayer for their good health and happiness.

God Bless Mummy and Daddy!