Life is full of ups and down, its full of surprises. You want your life the way you plan it to be but as much as you want things to be, sometimes it will not go as plan. Even your relationship with someone you love are beyond your control, as much as you want your relationship to last it might ended for certain reason. You don’t want that but if it happens life goes on.
If things dont go as planned, dont be disappointed, maybe God has different plan for you.
You feel its hard to move on because you have not forgive what had happend in your past. You need to make peace with yourself, don’t blame yourself or other people for what happened.
To be at peace with yourself is to be better equipped to face the world. To be at peace is to be more contented with your lot in life.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi
According to The National, holding a grudge will make you sick. Constant bitterness can make a person ill – so says a research team from Canada’s Concordia University in Montreal, Quebec. “Persistent bitterness may result in global feelings of anger and hostility that could affect a person’s physical health,” reveals Carsten Wrosch, a professor in psychology, who has spent 15 years looking at the side-effects of negative emotions.
The ability to forgive is crucial for you to move on from the past, and find peace within yourself.
If you not willing to forgive and make peace with yourself, you will create a feeling of hate which will be a stone in your heart, hardening each day and giving you lot of pain. Sometimes we keep hating someone we forget what they did to us.
To forgive is and easy words but not an easy task. Not many people willing to forgive but if you willing to forgive and let go, you must be proud of yourself.
Forgiveness is easing the chokehold emotion has on you and it opens you up to healing, growth and possibility.
Before you forgive anyone in the world, forgive yourself first, make peace with your past. Be thankful for the experiences you were given.
Occupation wellness is the dimensions that recognize your personal satisfaction and enrichment through work. A person who is doing is a person is doing exactly what they want to do in life and is comfortable and content with their personal and financial situation and future plans has a very healthy state of occupational wellness.
It is the ability to achieve a balance between work and leisure in a way that promotes health, a sense of personal satisfaction and is (for most people) financially rewarding. Our attitude and ability to effectively deal with work, school, and career goals greatly affect wellness, performance, interactions with others and overall success.
ENHANCING OCCUPATIONAL WELLNESS AT THE WORKPLACE
For employer, there are many ways that you can support work-life balance in your workplace even with a limited budget. Start by finding out from your employees what wellness program options would support their work-life balance. Then back up your wellness program with policies, encourage employees to make use of your workplace wellness options and affirm that tapping into these options will not negatively affect their employment with you.
As employee, you can also enhance occupational wellness at workplace, with the existence policies in your management or creating your own list in making your workplace an enjoying place to work at. Here are few strategies you can do to enhance occupational wellness at the workplace;
Flexible Work Arrangements
Flexible work arrangement benefited both employee and the organization. It gives their staff to choose on which time suits their staff, for example, a time option 7.30a to 4.30pm or 8.30am to 5.30pm. As employee, you can choose which time suits your well. Some organizations, such as non-profit organizations let their staff works from home and only have discussion twice a month.
Learn and Grow
Most organizations offer on-site seminars and workshops on topics such as stress, healthy living, communication styles, etc. and encourage their employees to further studies. Take this opportunity to learn and grow. The more you learn the more valuable you are to the organization and more opportunity open for you.
Be Friendly and Understanding
You are spending 8 hours a day, exactly 40 hours in a week. A good relationship with colleague and management will helps you enjoy your days at work without being stressful. Being friendly and understand each individual at your workplace helps in performing your work better, and furthermore your colleagues are your second family. You can share problem that is related to your work and share ideas on what can produce productivity at work. Talking about other colleague or management should be avoided, as this can gives a negative impact for you and your performance. Don’t compare yourself with other staff but learn to be a good teamwork.
Take a Break (How about hiking?)
Anyone can easily get stress with work but you should learn to take things easy. If you feel stress, take a break. It is advisable to take a break from work.
Start with a walk in the park with your family. You can try other activity such as cycling, hiking or mountain climbing. These activities helps you to get in touch with nature, fresh air, awesome views, surrounded by the sounds and smells of nature. According to medical studies, hiking is good for body and mind.
According to Harvard Medical School, benefit of hiking can increase your mood and healthy heart. Hiking can benefit brisk walking, hiking is a good way to improve your cardiovascular fitness, particularly if your route includes some hills, which will force your heart to work harder. Taking a hike on the slightly uneven surface of a trail also provides a natural way to engage the core muscles in your torso and to hone your balance skills.
You can start hiking somewhere nearby to you or can get some experts to helps you to get into the adventure tour. You can bring your family cycling, hiking and other activities. Awesome quality time with your family and great way to escape from the office work.
There is abundance of challenges and obstacles in trying to achieve and maintain a healthy state of occupational and other dimensions of wellness. It can be hard to feel comfortable and secure in a workplace that is impacted by the state of this difficult economy. There will always challenges in the workplace, disagreement with customers, colleagues and bosses but you need to learn to stay focus.
Staying focused on achieving a proper balance with your career, health, relationship, family and personal satisfaction as proper balance will help you produce and project your best performance. Reprogram your mind and your body to bring out the best in you. Don’t be afraid to change and make small improvements in all areas of your life.
Its the beginning of 2019, everyone starting with new resolutions but before anything else, starting a year with some reflections of what last year taught me is a good idea. Its another way for us to be grateful and thankful for what we have learnt throughout the years.
Time for reflection!
Before I started listing down what had happened within the 12 months last year, my mind pretty much on the negative sides of it. Some conflicts, my scholarship contract ended and the passing of my father in law in March last year. But as I recall and wrote everything down, it was actually a great year. There are so many things happened despite some challenges, I have achieved some of my goals, received great things, learnt new things and make new friends.
We learnt many things within a year, even if we encounter the similar situation but probably the way I perceived it these days were different from before. Its impossible not having sadness, struggle, bad news but these are experiences and lessons, learn and forget about it. Always FOCUS on what makes us happy and what taught us best. By writing and sharing what we learnt, may help us learn more about life, enjoy and looking forward for more interesting things life has to offer.
Everyone has unique personality
Everyone has unique personality, there will be time you meet up with someone who are impossible to get along with. You wish you can change them, try your best to understand and might even judge them, but the truth is, we cannot do anything about it. Don’t try to CHANGE or understand them. ACCEPT and RESPECT people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Let them be who they are, just learn to change your perception and be okay with them. Life are more fun with different type of people in your life. But if the energy is different its good to stay away from them.
Learning to say ‘NO’
If you find that you are spending your time helping doing something without your willingness or you don’t want to disappoint anyone who ask for help.
You want to please anyone and make them happy but sometimes you need to look at yourself, your ability, your strength and how worthy you are. It is important to be NICE to others but it is important to LOVE yourself.
Learn to say NO! They may feel disappointed but believe me they will understand. Being able to say NO to others means you are sincere and you are being true to yourself.
The Importance of failure
When we think about failure, we think of things that is painful and that it causes emotional turmoil and upset, and inflicts agonizing pangs of guilt, regret, and remorse.
But, for those that have known true failure, and have bounced back from it, understand that failure in life is necessary for success.
Even the most successful people in life have failed the most times. If you try to go through life without failing at anything, then you’re not really living a life at all. Taking risks and falling down flat on our faces is part of life; it makes us into who we are.
Society tends to celebrate the successes rather than highlighting the epic journeys towards success that are filled with trials, tribulations, upsets, setbacks, and failures. Failure is almost a forbidden words, we become afraid to fail because we were taught to succeed and to win every journey.
“When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important.” – Ellen DeGeneres
In life, it’s necessary to fail. Failure is a steppingstone. In fact, there are 5 very powerful life lessons that failure helps to teach and instill in us. If you’ve recently failed at something in a major way, and you’re going through a difficult time right now, keep these important lessons in mind.
Failure can be a Most of us tend to avoid failure. We’d rather see ourselves victorious at the finish line then tending to a damaged ego and attempting to determine where things went wrong.
But the truth is, the most successful people in the world endured mountains of failure before reaching the peak of success; and it was those failures that actually prepared them for what came next. Could it be then that failure can help you succeed?
Don’t expect too much
Being human we expect all good things in life. As the saying goes ‘expect the unexpected’, it is important to note that anything can happen. Sometimes we plan something and expect things will go smoothly but it does not necessary goes with the plan. Its not your fault things don’t turn out to be as plan, it can be an opportunity for learning new things.
Having too many expectations can be harmful but not having enough can be just as harmful. Having expectations for yourself is important, it gives you purpose and an idea of where you want to go in life, what you want to do.
Always be Grateful
We should be grateful from the moment you open your eyes each day, for being alive. Thanking God for another brand new day to love, to forgive and to do whatever you have failed to accomplish the day before.
By being grateful, we will treasure the things around us. You will learn to appreciate life in a better way. Treat others better and find yourself in a better mood every day. When you are thankful and grateful for the things you have. The universe tends to give you more of it because you appreciate it.
Be thankful and grateful for the problems and difficulty you facing. It is a way of life to allow you to grow from. It is designed specifically for you so that you will be stronger and wiser for any problems coming your way.
Lesson and Experiences
There are so many lesson we learn in life. We learn our lesson through experiences in life. Bad or good experiences, there are all lesson in life. We have to go through hurts, pain, obstacles, how you react to these are your choice, it can break you or make you stronger.
What I just share are just a few from many more lessons life has taught me. Life is a beautiful journey! have fun and enjoy the ride.
Thank you for your time!