I remember coming to Perdana Park when my children were younger. A great recreational leisure area, for family activities and nice spot to meet friends as there are a few eateries there.We visited the place again and old memories started playing in my mind, when my kids were younger playing at the playground and at one time we thought we lost them with their cousins as they wandered around the area…those were the days.
Nice timing to go there, as everyone is on hari raya holiday mood. This place will usually be full of people.The water fountain comes alive from 7:00pm to 9:00pm, from Monday to Thursday and all you have to do is sit, relax and enjoy yourself with the beautiful synchronized fountain water accompanying music and lights, creating a dazzling visual display. It just look spectacular as it it is dancing.
If you want to make memory, this will be the place. Enjoy!
There are many things we experience even within a year. I learnt few valuable lesson..throughout the years. As we were taught to be kind, love and caring towards one another, there are times we need to becareful for not being too kind. I believe I have been too nice sometimes and when I show Im upset or angry, seems people makes a fuss about it. The thing is I am human and I dont really have a reputation to keep.
#Dont get too involved
Sometimes we feel the need to help friends and letting ourselves to be ‘the middleman’ in any project. If the proposal not done by you..don’t be involved! especially when two parties are you friends..let them deal and settle. Stay out of the way. If they kill each another maybe you may call as a witness but at least you survive.
#Dont be too concerned
You may see or observe something that may help your friend in his/her business. You may want to tell him/her on what you think but before you want to say anything, may I suggest ‘not to say anything’ at all..unless this friend of yours ask for suggestion or opinion. Do not show your concern because it does not sound as a concern to your friend but more as a ‘kepoh’ or trying to criticize him or her.
#Dont be too friendly
Not many people understand you. Different people act differently on friendship. To me having male or female friends are equally important because I look for quality of a person.
People may judge us in different way, read and perceive on how we act upon them. The problem is we tend to judge and perceive people wrong most of the time. We may try to be nice but looks like we wanted something from them.
#Start being nice to yourself
With all these happening, I feel its time to just stop being too nice to other people and start to be nice to myself. I need to forgive myself, letting my anger free and be thankful for the experiences i gone through.
#Keep it simple
Life demands so many things from us and we somehow want to be part of society so we act or want to be like them. We buy things that are not necessary and forgotten the reason to live.
#Time to reflect
The only way to do this is to go far out from the city. I love to get back to my childhood memory because its where my dream startef, there where I find my joy and peace. My inner child seems to be alive when I smell the sea, trees, watching the birds fly..it feels as it was just like yesterday when I was in my childhood days. As if my grandparents were with me protecting me when I fell and hurt my hand. Its a beautiful childhood memory.
Get in touch with the nature, be bored doing nothing and just listen the surroundings. The nature gives great advice if you listen.
#The nature taught me
When I stop my mind from wandering and feel the moment. As I listen to the sound of waves that tell me to be brave as the feel of breeze comforts me. The sun shine above me touches my skin as it given me permission to cry and let go of my emotions. And at night I feel like the moon gives me blessing to do what my heart desire. Its beautiful to be in the moment.
Its just a great way to start another year, another chapter of our story and more lesson to learn.
Enjoy this video I made during my stay in a place call 9Huts in Kudat.
I have been trying to write but what happened is instead of writing I only stares at the computer not knowing what to write and i even try to jot it down on paper..still nothing happened.
Probably I have too many things in my mind and having hard time to put it into words, it happened to me whenever I had worries. I almost had anxiety attacked recently and may now have something to share.
I was physical and mentally exhausted, there were moments where I feel numb and my brain had ‘shut down’…all i see is darkness. This situations has been a series of what I’ve been through when my kids were younger. Surrounded by feeling ‘unwanted’ ‘unloved’ and not appreciated, it was devastating.
Taking NLP Certification in 2010 gives me light in my darkness. There are many techniques in NLP that helps me faced the challenges. Being a certified NLP Practitioner does not mean I have magic.
I am a full time working mom, part time student and I am a woman, we think, feel and see things different from men. Anxiety is just part of me, it can triggered anytime but I am able to control it much better now.
What’s Your Story?
Sometimes we react to certain situations and we keep repeating what we heard or what we see in our head. You beginning to make up the whole story in your mind. Your story are based on your perceptions and belief.
We look at the world on our point of view and tend to get hurt even by thinking of those stories in our head. Little things, such as how people treat us or things don’t go as plan can be upsetting.
Before doing anything else, we need to acknowledge our feelings and accept what’s happening cannot be change.
Take control of your mind
In order to take control of your life is to take full control of your mind.
How so? Everything affected our emotions happened from how we think.. what we see in our mind..our own TV screen.
Here how you can let go, stage by stage or any worry stories you may be telling yourself.
Think about a situation you have been stressing and /or worrying about and begin to notice what you’ve been telling yourself about the situation.
Remember and look back at the situation as clear as you can. See what you see, hear what you hear and feel what you feel at that moment as if i its really happening.
Now once you into that ‘moment’ you need to acknowledge that you need to change the story.
Imagine you are looking at the whole situation as a ‘movie’. Now allow yourself to change the colour or situation as pleasant as you want. You may even filter it, make it blur or ‘vanished’ from your mind. Now you can ‘create’ a new story and free from the old story that makes you stress, worry or angry. This will help you looking at different picture in your mind, it’s like creating a new movie or editing a video you created for a long time.
You may now tell yourself, the ‘old story’ has no longer affected your emotions or your life. You are now FREE from the past and you may want to write down new story or visual a new story of hope and new possibility.
There are few NLP techniques, what i just shared is just a basic and not a proper NLP technique but probably the easiest way to try without even learning NLP. But if you really need to know how NLP works, please do drop me an email.
Thank you for reading..have an awesome day!😍