Imagine 6 out of 10 from your close friends told you that you are ‘out of style’ or you need to ‘upgrade’ yourself… What would you do? Leave it as it is.. or do something about it? Sometimes we don’t see what others see, start analyzing their words.. look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself.. “am i really out of style and do i need to upgrade myself?”

Take their words and start with little steps at a time.. don’t do drastic changes. If you have great attitude you would enjoy changes.. ask their opinion on what should you change, probably only your hair style or your fashion need to tune a little bit.

Do some research, starting from what you’ve been wearing.. is it the color, the pattern or style. Go to a Image consultant if you must, invest a little for a long term. Image is part of branding.. if your Image consultant suggest you to get western belts to go along with long skirt and blouse, try it. If she said you look good with blue navy and pencil skirt suits you, go along with it. Wear what suggested by your Image Consultant and asked those who gave comments to you.

Remember, if somebody give comments, don’t judge them as giving critics.. take it as feedback. Your choice to change and understand what need to change is important. Don’t change because you need to please others but change to make you a better person instead.

Its just sad if someone attacked you ..not in front of you.. sadly.. but behind you.. such an act of a coward.  Imagine how a person want to be respected by the education level this person had.. and if someone had the same level..this person will asked from where.. so unbelievably arrogant.

It is a terrible feeling … being looked down.. emotionally disturb.. your mind full of questions of ‘WHY, WHAT  and HOW?’

I slowly analyze my thoughts and emotions..and beginning to relax in my state of mind..

As i meditate..my mind beginning to visualize of ..what should i do next? Should i fight.. imagining myself yelling at that person, while the person holding a swisher sweet cigars on the other hand.. we might scream and yell at each other..or even slap at each other.Its a good feeling if i could scream at this person because a line of people waiting to do that.

But i wont do that.. because i determine not to have hatred in my body system… I let this person OUT from my mind for good.. not even the VISUAL or AUDIO on this person.. i have DELETED.. i am FREE!  My mind are in PEACE with LOVE from others who cares.

But that doesn’t mean i LOSE!  I have my own strategy in winning this game.. because it is not where or what MASTER DEGREE you hold but in what degree you MASTER your LIFE.

You SCREAM at me, I will SMILE back at you..   You hold on your EDUCATION and QUALIFICATION .. i just hold my EMOTION.. which you always fail in.

People will be remembered by the VALUE we give others not by what Qualification we had.

Remember to Respect everybody ..because we are equally human.

God Bless!

Beautiza

Shopping with family especially with children around is difficult and distracting..  My time to go shopping with my best friend will be a whole day.. that’s for sure.  But i will be very selective this time.. i don’t want to overspend.

Whatever it is.. just wait and see what they offer.. i love shopping while everything on promotion.. with great discount!..  I will not be using my credit card..will be using my debit card.. more better that way.. Love to share with you this cartoon.

I would love to have a Fairy  Godmother let me use a credit card.. even if its expire at midnight.. i will be home before the midnight.. i promise you Fairy Godmother!..

To me friends are my shoulder to cry on, to rely on, to laugh with, to share with.. about love, secret, skin.. where to get the best acne treatment, which is the best salon and everything you want to ask.. ask your friends.  I love my friends the way they are, every each of them open my eyes and mind with their own opinion.  Their feedbacks are important to me but it is not necessary for me to accept it, there are right and wrong.  Friends are our references, the only person who have the answer is YOU.

Accept our friends the way their are, if you cannot change them, change yourself to accept them, if you allow yourself to accept the way they are then you are adding few more friends in life.

It is easy to find a friend but not easy to have good friend, a friend will agree with you but a good friend sometimes do otherwise .. depending on your situation.. good friend can be harsh sometimes.. but they are sincere and thats what friends are for.  I continue adding new friends list ..  friendship is like flower.. it need to be shower with love and care and it will grow and continue to grow.

If you are my friend, I assure you .. I will forever yours!

.. Beautiza ..

We just try to make a simple reunion, as long as everybody can get together, it will be great.  We might need to prepare door gifts, flowers for the ladies, football gift for guys maybe.  What we are hoping right now is how many can attend, the more the merrier.

Hopefully it will be a memorable events.. will post the reunion story..no worries.

I learned my lesson well, after feeling being a champion all this while I learn a hard life lesson that just trigger me to change.. change to be a better person. It is hard to swallow but I managed to taste and feel it, I plan my life but God make a plan out of it. I discover anger and hatred coming but I managed to overcome it with love and forgiveness because that is what I need to make me ease my burden and guilt. I experience loneliness but God makes me believe that He is with me and I am not alone.

I celebrate my sadness, guilt, angry, rejected and embrace the feeling, I cry with it and after I had it  I change it to happiness, forgiveness, happy, being loved and life with that moment. It is not easy but it is possible when you accept it.

I realized by now that a good friend not only the one who gives you great comments, praises and ‘yes’ to whatever you say but also the one who gives you negatives feedback and makes you think twice and never look back. It just how to accept the feedback and how to overcome it.

No need to change how you feel straight away.. enjoy the moment of sorrow and slowly let it go.. its like standing in an a dirty bathroom  pretending to have a clean and nice bathroom vanity then you realize you need to have that change and you go to action..and change it.

They still managed to sense their feeling but get control of their emotions because they don’t want others to notice what is happening. If you are guilty, and you know it is your fault just say ‘SORRY’.

Share your feelings… let it out. If you concern about something or someone and don’t know how to start the conversation, start using ‘PLEASE’. “Please let me know what can i do to help”, “please let me know what bothering you”, if they don’t want to talk about it just comfort them.

Another easy words to say that seems hard for others is ‘THANK YOU’. Do you know when you say it sincerely it become natural to you.

These three words are the most important and valuable in everyday communication no matter at home or at work. Saying SORRY, PLEASE and THANK YOU sincerely will be more meaningful then just saying it.

Let say i am giving away Branson vacation packages for free. How would you ask me if you want it? Of course you still need to say.. please.. and i am sure you will say thank you if i give it to you but if you don’t convince me with the three magic words i might have to say.. sorry, please try again, thank you.

I was waiting for my husband in my car, one evening when i saw a few western tourists walking by, they reminded me of an English couple i met in 2000, Roy and Sheila. The first time we met in Shangri-La’s Tanjung Aru, we had a conversation, within that week, we met twice then i decided to bring them for dinner in Nelayan Restaurant, we did and it was an unforgettable dinner, instead of me paying, Roy paid for it ..hehehe. Since then, we have been contacted via email though her daughter, Debbie. Both of us became good friend, i always asked her for advice and we chat occasionally, we were hoping to meet one day.

Today, i was online searching online insurance quotes, then i remember Debbie, it has been awhile that she never commented in my FB and i have not seen her online in Yahoo messenger. I just simply checked on her son’s fb profile and to my surprised to see words of condolences to him, i scrolled down ‘…sorry for your loss, Debbie was a great lady…’ one of the commenters wrote. I have loss a dear friend whom i haven’t met, according to her son, Marc, her mother passed away on 10 July 2010, it was just a day before my birthday.

She left behind, Marc his only son, whenever i chat with Debbie, she will always mentioned about Marc, how proud she is to be his mother. This is how Marc described her mother ‘…. she was beautiful, funny, caring, loving everyone loved to be around her, life and soul of the party, a great friend and the best Mum in the world..’.

Debbie, we never met but we know each other, we speak by reading not by words,we share secret because we believe what friendship holds. I am sad for not being able to meet you but i am happy to have a friend like you.

Beautiza