But what about to motivate somebody who feels down or stress? what can you really do? the best is to listen..without any solution first..let them do the talking..you just listen.  People who are having problem loves to share and sometimes they don’t want you to answer..they just want you to lend them your ears.. that is why God gives us two ears and one mouth.. to listen more and talk less.

Let me share one motivational book by best selling author  Mr. Anthony DeStefano.   As always i am so honored and proud to received this book from the author himself.

I Just Can’t Take It Anymore! a simple yet wonderful motivational book… printed with beautiful pictures of children and big printed letters.  Not only it is great for a gift for adults and can be a wonderful gift for children.. to understand life can be difficult sometimes but if we appreciate and understand why it happens .. you can enjoy life more.

Few sample pictures that are wonderful.. and it is really great.  I recommend you to buy few copies of this books, you can give it as a gift but you have to keep a copy for yourself too.

All the best and God Bless!

What is the best gift to give to our parents or older relatives? Flowers, picture frames or album with family pictures, matching t-shirts?..yup..sometimes we don’t know what to give them, wrong gifts will give wrong impressions and judgment upon you. Imagine giving a watch or clock, they might think you want them to die faster, or if you want to buy them perfume or cologne, they thought they are just too smelly for you . This might sound funny to you but older people are sensitives and we want to make them happy but giving the wrong gift can make them feel down or depressed.

Well.. have you ever consider giving them Medicare supplement plans for seniors? It doesn’t sound really cool but its worth for them… it is all they need… medication, advice and security. Health is wealth, wealth is from within us, if we are healthy we can do anything we like.

I was searching for good medicare supplement plans, not only i found great plans but also medical advice. The solution is just clicking MayoClinic.com. Such an interesting place where you can find information about health and you can even get a doctor for any advice.

Life is easier nowadays, what you need to do is search for the best and click to get the best.

All the best!

Wherever we are in the world.. what important is not how we celebrate Christmas but how we remember Christmas.. as we always overshadowed ourselves by the advertising and marketing .. the Santa, the Shopping etc.

We forgotten our main reason of the celebration is to celebrate the birth of Jesus our savior.

Rather then having spend more on clothing and buying expensive gifts..just be moderate in everything.. and the most important of all of spending our time with our loves one… family gathering is a must in celebrating Christmas..whether its a White Christmas or Warm Christmas.. wherever you are in the world.

May in this Christmas Day.. Christ lives in us..gives us new life.. start all over again.. and forgive ourselves and move on to give and share more love to others.

May we always have Peace on Earth, Good Health and Happiness in the World.. Amen.

Merry Christmas from Beautiza

I will be taking leave for 2 weeks and that makes me a temporary SAHM ( stay at home mum).   I will be spending more time with them but thinking how to spend less.   Working in the office is pretty much relax then at home….

But some says..better stay at home.. let me find out about that..

Now i am thinking of the  menu, what to cook for breakfast, lunch..dinner.

Planning where to go and  places to visit…what activity should i give them at home..coloring, craft, play their toys or  cooking..  I know its going to be a very interesting and busy week for me.   I better starting writing my ‘to do list’.. i hope i don’t need to write a long list… ‘to buy list’… groceries.. now i remember i need to get one of the amt pumps to get the water working.

Better get my mind thinking and planning.. how,what,where,when..  hopefully won’t get myself stress.. and busy with the house thingy.

I am happy to have invested in learning NLP but applying and experiencing to myself makes me more happy.. let me show you the formula.  Okay, you have seen the formula of getting stress.. let me put you in my shoe for awhile, just to get you in the picture.

Okay.. i have seen the differences.. and only little things in common.. I can’t change him..neither he change me.. but i talk to him in a pleasant way just to let him know how i feel.. it takes 100 times..and more.. and you won’t be successful overtime.. try and try again.  Okay now i look at the little things we have in common.. example..we both like cooking.. he cook better than me.. i appreciate when he cook.. i appreciate it everyday..and i start to count my blessings.  How about the differences? well nobody perfect.. keep the differences aside, somehow you will need it.. example.. he loves watching tv.. i don’t..so i asked him about the movie without watching it.. save my time..isn’t it?  If you feel empty inside, look at your children..let them fill you with love..as how you shower your love to  them everyday.

To accept your partner’s differences.. you have to start little by little.. one at a time.. you might fail at first but at the end you will succeed.  Why not make this as one of your goals for 2012.

All the best!..Beautiza

Going out just the three of us.. just hanging out with them.. more spending.. eat! eat! and eat!.. at home the same thing we do.. eat! eat! eat!.. and at the same time.. my mind scanning the whole house.. what should i change, what i need to get rid.. and what i need to buy..  i shouldn’t think about this.. my mind should be resting.. my money should be resting.. huhu.    I had something in my mind that i wanted.. i was looking at my  door and i thought why not get door kick plate.  It made of a strong metal or base like metal and can actually be used for what its name describes. You can kick it with your shoes to get any grass,  dirt, etc off of your shoes before coming into your home. This helps prevent you from tracking dirt and other unwanted particles into your home and leaves them outside for Mother Nature to handle.

Door kick plates provide a great decorative feature to your door. You can find colors and materials that match your door or other accents in your home, and it will actually make it stand out quite a bit.  It can also act as a reflective measure for you to see where you are going at night… tempted to buy door kick plate? well.. i know i do.

I better stop thinking about what to buy for the house and start thinking where to go with my children.   I can always find money to buy what i want.. anytime..but i can’t always have time to be with my children.. love is more expensive..and i got to spend it wisely.

Actually i had that same thought too when i was single.. i was searching for the ‘perfect partner’.. the ‘Mr. Right’.. but i couldn’t find one with the criteria i have been looking for… but i made a promise to myself that i will get married before the age of 30.. so i did.

If you asked me if i married ‘Mr. Right’? looking with my life now.. my husband helps me with the children, the house chores and he is a better ‘chef’ than me.. i said Yes i did.  But there were times.. when we fight about certain issues, to be honest, sometimes i asked myself.. ‘is he actually Mr.Right’.. hahaha.  That silly questions pop up usually when we disagree on something.

We are the opposites, i am very talkative.. if i start talking..its like the machine gun.. non stop.. and i am full of sense of humor.. love to laugh.. while he on the other hand.. is the relax and steady kind of guy.  I believe God make the two of us become one because of these differences.  I just have to accept the differences and i am unable to change him, as he can’t change the way i am.  Accepting differences is one of it but good communication is important.  How does your partner know how you feeling if you don’t express it?  and if you express it in the angry tone.. sure you will get a high pitch tone too.

We are not the perfect couple.. marriage is a journey.. in this journey, we get to know each other more, we get to know our partner’s weaknesses and strength.  I realize that when i’m feeling down after a fight.. i will look at his weaknesses.. i try to search for more bad things he have done to me.. and i feel more depress.. and it is stupid.  Now whenever i am angry, i take a moment to look at his best side.. what good things he have done to me.. and how wonderful he is.. even the smallest thing.. i feel better.  Nobody is perfect.. and we are not perfect ourselves.

If you ready for a proposal, go buy the stainless steel partner rings.  But whatever type of ring or how expensive the ring is, its not worth of the value of your relationship.  Why couple get married? is it because they find ‘the perfect partner or the One’.. but why they get divorce? do they realized the person their married..was not ‘the one’?

A wedding is just for a day.. but the marriage is a journey.. A journey that need Respect and Love from each other.. and my marriage have a far distance to go… and still learning.  May you find ‘the One’ for you.. but don’t be surprise that sometimes ‘the one’ for you is actually someone you already know for years.

It would be fun with loud speakers.. “hear ye! hear ye! neighbors..sharing with you all what we are watching!.. its Transformer”!  that would be fun.. cruel though.

Love to be watching with my  family.. cry together..laugh together… of course there were times we don’t agree on what we want to watch.. there will be someone wants to watch something else.

This i want to see…. son and daddy play games…

Till the money rolling.. till the time come.. i will sure get one of this.. soon!

I love December!.. month of holidays, month of forgiving in welcoming  Christmas! a day of  forgiving.. Christmas a day of giving and receiving… need to start my ‘gift list’ as a preparation before buying Christmas gifts to family members and close friends.

Preparing list is difficult.. what to buy for each person i find difficult.. i don’t want to give something they don’t like..phew… how does Santa Clause did it?

Oh well.. i might need some help from my girl.. she will come out with interesting ideas for gifts.

Its October!.. i remember there is something special about this month.. ‘what was it?’.. Oh!.. my mummy’s birthday on the 3rd October.. she is 60? unbelievable..she still look the same to me.. my beautiful mother.. with forgiving heart and humble down to earth.  Rose.. as beautiful as the flower..strength from deep within your heart.

How can i be like her.. i can’t be like her.. i guess the best is just be myself and taking her best part in me.  What best gift can i give her? diamond necklace is not her choice either she feel wearing jewel are just to much.. even precious pearl is another highlight for her..

Oh… dear mummy, i can’t give you much.. not much materials i can offer you.. but my LOVE for you.. and how thankful i am to have such beautiful and wonderful mother.

May God always give you good health and great happiness!

your daughter,

Shirley