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    HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH STUDENTS

    Everyone know what is communication and why we communicate, in general to convey message and making sure the receiver received and understand the message.  You are receiving my message while reading this article.

    UNDERSTANDING YOUR ROLES, RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOUR CLIENTS

    As a Teacher, your roles are more than a ‘Teacher’.  Students and Parents are your main clients.  For parents, you are the first person they asked advice from or someone they turned to if they want to share something about their child because you are with their child most of the time at school.

    For students, you are more than a Teacher who provides education, you provide protection, support, encouragement, love and care.  You are their older sister/brother or even as their parents.  You carry lots of responsibilities in your daily duties.  Be proud of it!

    WE ARE FULL OF EMOTIONS

    Yes we are human, we are not perfect.  We are full of emotions and everyday we are facing with lots of ups and downs.  Remember not only you have lots of stuff going on in your mind…kids do too.

    WHAT IS GOING ON INSIDE OUR MIND

    BEFORE YOU START YOUR DAY

    Before you start your day.  Inhale, exhale and be thankful.  Keep yourself calm and enjoy the day.

    Remember the 5 basic needs, each and everyone of us need these basic needs to get ready to learn.  Every child need to be seenheard, need to be respected, need to feel belong and therefore they will be ready to learn.

    HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR STUDENTS

    You are not just dealing with any typical students, you are dealing with ‘special needs students’.  You might have observe each students and you are fully understood that each students are different but the one thing that is similar are they are fragile.  Looks like they don’t understand you but they do have feelings, they heard and understand whenever you talking about them.  They don’t want sympathy they want empathy.  They want you to show them you CARE and LOVE them.

    Always remember to listen to them, look at their eyes, mirror them and speak their language.  Observes their action, their needs.  The more you observe, the more you be able to understand them.  Have vision on them and asked them their vision.  Show them empathy, they want to feel that you understand them, that will make them feel secure and safe.

    Handling kids are never easy, handling special needs need special teacher like you.  Be calm, keep calm because that is the only weapon that helps you go through their mind.  Acknowledge them and use their names when you are talking to them.  Recognize their ability, even the small things makes a big different. Always encourage them, for the job well done.  Even when they fail, keep on encouraging on what they can improve.

    DON’T JUDGE THE PARENTS FOR THEIR CHILD’S BEHAVIOR

    We use to judge parents when their child behave badly especially in public.  I believe this happened in school too, whenever there is a naughty student we assume the behavior must be from home.

    I would have think the same  before but when my kids are in school I seen some differences, things I didn’t teach from home, things I don’t want them to say, its all there in the package.

    ...”Over the years, I’ve learned that child behavior is not as cut and dry as I once might’ve believed. Some kids aren’t born with a “don’t hit” and “be gentle” button, and it takes time to nurture those things. No two children are alike, and having a son that hits and bites is further confirmation of that fact. And while before I was a seasoned parent, I thought the only thing that resulted from good parenting was kind and obedient children, now I know otherwise. In fact, I’ve met plenty of wonderful parents over the years with kids who seem like they go out looking for trouble. I’ve come to believe that it’s one of the great lessons of parenting—that you can’t control everything your children do”.-Sarah Bregel- Parenting.com

    …”Once kids reach school age (and for many of us, even sooner) they are away from us many hours a day. We have less control over the things—and people, and behaviors—they latch onto. Of course, it’s always important to take note of, and work to curb, any undesirable qualities that pop up, but being away from parents is a good thing. It gives kids room to grow and explore in new ways. We will still be the most influential people in our children’s lives, and inevitably they’ll pick up some of our mannerisms, ideas, habits, prejudices, and talents. But they don’t have to be—shouldn’t be—our mirror image…” Peggy Drexler Ph.D. – PsychologyToday.com

    Imagine those parents with special needs child like me, we face challenges in managing our child’s behavior.  There are times we can’t control them and they themselves unable to control what they experiencing, remember they are SPECIAL, they have sensory integration issues.

    Parents are already stress, not that they don’t do their work but they are things beyond their control.  If you focus on the parents too much you are will not be able to focus on the child.

    HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH THE PARENTS

    BUILD RAPPORT

    CHECK OUT THIS VIDEO ON HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH PARENTS

    You have chosen your career as a Special Education Teacher and I am sure you more willing to learn.  Working with different type of special needs students, with all the tools you learn, the knowledge and experiences you have, you need to be physical and mentally strong.

    From a parent to all the special education teachers .. I salute you.. and thank you for your hard work.

    YOU DID A GREAT JOB!

    Here are the full version of the video;

    THANK YOU!

    Notes : This article is adapted from my presentation for empowering teachers and Trainers program organized by CHILD,UNICEF AND MPWS.  This article may have been different from the actual slides presentation but the content are more likely the same.

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    3 Creative Lesson Plans to Engage Homeschoolers

    Whether you have reluctant learners, kids who get bored easily, or kids who lose focus when they don’t understand the value of your lessons, you may recognize the need for creative, innovative lessons that will engage your homeschoolers. Thinking outside the box may be easier said than done when you concentrate on concepts and learning styles and covering content with students. The good news is, once you start to get creative with your lessons, you will inspire yourself to explore new possibilities and you will be energized by your kids’ enthusiasm for learning.

    Real Estate Project

    One of the best ways for kids to gain a deep understanding of the concepts they learn throughout the course of a school year is to connect all of their learning in one project. It’s even better when the project has real-world applications to the kids can see the value of their learning and the ways in which it applies to real life. For example, a real estate project incorporates math, science, English, social studies, and home economics and is something homeschoolers can work on all year long as they learn various concepts and acquire new skills. It’s also a project that easily lends itself to multiple grade levels, so it’s perfect for a homeschool environment.

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    For example, you could begin by telling students that there is a town that is interested in drawing young families to move in and live there beyond retirement age. Your students could put their math and geometry skills to the test by designing homes, playgrounds, and other areas that would be appealing to your target audience.  You would then incorporate science by guiding students through researching the weather, geography, and other characteristics of the area and explaining what would make them appealing to new home buyers. The English component would come into play when students create commercials, webcasts, and other promotions that would persuade people to move to the area.

     

    Next, students would incorporate their social studies lessons of culture and history to discuss the zoning laws, government structures, and demographics of the area. Finally, students could plan a social function to advertise their town and invite prospective business owners and home buyers to the area. This may involve designing and executing a menu, organizing a venue and entertainment, etc. You can get as creative with this year-long real estate project as you wish, and you could build upon students’ interests as the year progresses.

    Design and Grow a Garden

    Kids in any grade should understand the value of planting and caring for a garden. By designing and planting their own garden, younger students will understand that farmers work hard to grow and harvest all of the food they eat, and older students will learn about government-regulated pricing and its effects on agriculture.

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    Of course, students will learn the science behind gardening, and they can experiment with various amounts of light, fertilizer, and growing conditions. You can extend this lesson to composting so that students can use their own compost to provide nutrients for their plants and vegetables; you can also connect the gardening lesson to literature for younger students to help them gain a better understanding of gardens as habitats. Older students can measure rainfall and record its effects on the garden, too.

    Build Your Own Study Space

    Students will take more responsibility for their studying and learning when they have some control over their space. If they are empowered to design and build their own study space, students will be active participants in their education and think about how they learn and study best. Some may want to design and build a desk that contains several compartments for materials because they want to be organized, and some may want a colorful study space because they are visual learners who need visual stimulation while thinking and reading. Still others may want to include a space for headphones or a speaker because they study and learn best when there is music playing.

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    For a truly outside-the-box lesson, take the kids’ plans off graph paper and make them a reality by purchasing the wood, corkboard, jars, and other materials they need to design a unique study space that fits their learning styles.

    Homeschool provides students with more opportunities to be creative, work with their hands, and connect concepts across subjects. If you get outside the box with your lessons, your children will be more engaged and gain a deeper understanding by applying their learning to real-life situations.

     

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    Written by Guess Author, Ms. Erica Francis.  

    Members of ReadyJob.org, a website that introduce curriculum and activities designed for educators to help teens prepare for their first job.

     

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    How To Reduce Conflicts Among Family

    Each family is unique due to variation of personal characteristic and cultural style.  Family is the first training centre for any human being before stepping out to the world. Home and family is the first place they learn how to adapt to their surroundings.  Family is a basic unit in a society and a healthy nation are made from strong society which comes from strong family.  Each members of the family have a part in the family.

    In these modern era, where most things become easy with technology and social interaction have been taken over by social media.   Relationship become vulnerable, family can easily become distance.  Family don’t talk anymore, they text each other and this becoming a trend. If you look at people around, at the restaurant, at the park, shopping complex and even in any gathering, most will be on the hand phone rather than talking to each other.  People don’t talk anymore, they texting and this scenario can be pretty scary.

    Many people especially family member having communication break-down.  Divorce rate are getting higher each day because of conflict among family. Conflicts that are not resolved peacefully can lead to arguments and resentment.  Communication in a positive way can help reduce conflict so that family members can reach a peaceful resolution.

    Communication is the healthy key to any healthy relationships especially family.  Effective communication and listening skills are important skills that need to be learnt.  Poor communication skills or lack of listening skills may create miscommunication which leads to conflict and tension among family members.

     OBJECTIVES OF STUDIES

    Communication in a family are very important, a good communication is a key to healthy relationships among family.  Objective of this study is to learn the importance of communication in a family system.  How communication affected family relationship, good and open communication is essential to establish a harmonious relation among family members based on certain important characteristics.  Poor communication among family will lead to conflicts and family problems such as separation and divorce.

    This assignment is requires a discussion on;

    The importance of communication in a family system.

    The factors contributing to the occurrence of a conflict among family system? And

    The effective strategies on how to avoid or reduce conflicts among family members.

    2.0       THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION IN A FAMILY SYSTEM

    COMMUNICATION IN FAMILY SYSTEM

    Communication is sharing of ideas, thoughts and feelings among people, communication doesn’t have to include words or verbal.  Non-verbal are also considered as part of communication, when we ask a child to agree on something and the child nod, means the child agree with you without saying yes or no.  Communication involves the ability to pay attention to what others are thinking and feeling.  In other words, an important part of communication is not just talking, but listening to what others have to say.

    There are four main points in the communication concept of a family system.  They are as follows:

    There are no such things as an ideal family. Every family attempts to form a distinctive identity as a result of both happy and sad experienced in their lives.  Imperfection makes a family system perfect together.

    Communication in a family system is process that happens when a family member discusses and shares meaning with other members of the same family. Through this interaction, we shape ad determine the identities and relationships of the members within the family and society.

    A healthy family will attempt to adapt and shape changes in order to maintain closeness within the family as well as control and handle any conflicts.

    The family is the best example of the context of communication involving multiple generations that is from the smallest members of family to the adults and the elderly.

    FOUR STYLES OF COMMUNICATION

     

    Although communicating with family members may seem complex at times, family communication styles can be broken down into two major constructs: clearness of the message and directness of the communication. There are four basic communication styles: clear and direct, clear and indirect, masked and direct and masked and indirect. Clarity in communication refers to how easily a message is understood, while directness refers to whether the message is spoken directly to the person for whom it was intended.

    2.2.1    Clear and Direct Communication

    Clear and direct communication is considered the healthier form of communication in families. Clear and direct communication occurs when a message is stated plainly and directly to the person for whom the message is intended. An example of clear and direct communication is a statement such as “Honey, I’m so proud of you for completing your homework early.”

    2.2.2    Clear and Indirect Communication

    In clear and indirect communication, a message is clearly communicated, but the person for whom the message is intended is not clear. This type of communication is probably meant for someone but don’t want it to show it directly.  For example, a mother saying “all of you make this house is in a mess” sends a clear message, but does not address directly to the person for who it intended.  This type of communication can be a problem, it create tension rather than a solution.

    2.2.3    Masked and Direct Communication

    Masked and direct communication occurs when a family member is directly identified, but the message communicated is not. Masked communication may be viewed as passive-aggressive, because it vaguely discusses concerns without directly addressing them. For an example, you are upset with your daughter for not able to clean her room, stating “I cannot imagine how someone can sleep in a room like this”.  It is clear that you are upset with your daughter for not cleaning her room but without giving her instruction on what to do.

    2.2.4    Masked and Indirect Communication

    The least effective method of communication is masked and indirect communication. This communication style does not identify the intended recipient for the message, nor does it clearly state the message that you are trying to convey. A statement such as “People don’t care about keeping a clean house anymore,” is both vague and does not directly identify any one person in the family.

    2.3       FAMILY SYSTEM THEORY

    Family system theory stresses that the whole of the family is more important relative to the individual contributions each family member provides.  The system theory concept of wholeness emphasizes that the sum of the whole is greater than the individual parts.”  Thus, families can be understood not through individual members’ experiences (which can vary widely from one another-think “beloved sister” and “black sheep” here) but, rather, through the unique dynamics and overall climate achieved in a family; that is, families should be measured at the system level (e.g. size, rigidity, climate) rather than the individual family level (e.g., perceptions of satisfaction, emotional experiences)

    As in roles theory, where one parent is the resource provider and the other is the nurturer-caregiver.  Both functions must be achieved for the family to function, so both parents rely on one another, and the children rely on both of the parents.  The concept of homeostasis (balance) stresses the nature of families as goal-attaining systems.  The family have goal to attain a well raised children, social and emotional well-being and family’s satisfaction.

    For example if there is certain issues in the family, such as a child create problem in school.  The parents may need to set their goal and attempting to regain balance within the family system.

    First, families use communication, which functions to connect the self-aware, self-directed, independent identities within the families.  Second, families must use sociopolitical negotiation to achieve joint decisions by members with individual needs and independent wills.  Thus, families require a far more elaborate executive mechanism than is found in other types of systems.  Third, attributions regarding families must be made at the social system level.  In other words, attributions about as system are different (e.g. size, rigidity, development) from those of individuals (e.g., marital satisfaction).  Fourth, families use social distance regulation as they approach and avoid members within the family and across family boundaries.

    2.4       RULES THEORY

    Rules of communication shape how we communicate with various family members, inform us regarding the best way to verbally talk to, or nonverbal communicate with, other member of our family.  Rules help us know that we are obligated to tell our mothers what time we will be home and with whom we are going out.  Rules also let us know that it is preferred that we communicate in pleasant ways and swearing at our mothers is strictly prohibited.

    3.0       CONFLICTS AMONG FAMILY MEMBERS

    No family can escape from having conflicts, as it is normal to disagree with each other from time to time.  We face conflict on everyday events but minor issues, such as having different opinion can easily be resolved.  Conflicts which involved strong emotions or the power imbalances that can be present in relationships are difficult to resolve.  Some stages a family goes trough such as learning to live as a new couple, birth of a baby, just to name a few can also leads to conflicts.  Certain change in the family situation that requires major decisions, roles or power are also contributes to conflict.  Here are some examples;

    3.1       Learning to live as a New Couple

    A newly married couple usually start their journey together by staying at their parent’s house before they have a house of their own.  According to Amsa Naidu cited in The Star.com.my (30/08/2016), there have been more couples filing for divorce these years and dealing with this people every week rather than one or two cases at one time when she started before.

    Amsa, who has been practicing family law for 17 years, says some get a divorce after just three months of marriage and says common reasons among her clients, is interference from in-law.

    3.2       Marriage Problems

    Based on the initial findings of the fifth Malaysian Population and Family Survey conducted in 2014 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN, Lembaga Penduduk dan Pembangunan Keluarga Negara), divorce cases in the country are mostly caused by “incompatibility” at 35.3 per cent, which was cited as couples growing apart, lack of intimacy, and careers getting in the way of the relationship, followed by adultery (20.2 per cent), irresponsible husband (14.1 per cent), involvement from in-laws (7.3 per cent), financial problems (5 per cent), and among other reasons (18.1 per cent). (Malaysiandigest.com, 2016)

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    The Star.com.my dated 30 August 2015, cited that The Islamic Development Department (Jakim, Jabatan Kemajuan Islam Malaysia) defined irreconcilable differences as being disrespectful towards a spouse, communication problems, selfishness and laziness has been the reason of divorce in this country.  Malaysian Syariah Lawyer Association President Musa Awang says cases of irreconcilable differences occur when both parties can no longer accept each other or do not have feeling towards one another and there are also some couples who live in the same house but sleep in different rooms.  Musa also shares that some of his clients divorce for the simplest of reasons, for instance a case where a woman wanting to leave the marriage because her husband spent too much time playing video games, while another man complained that his wife did not cook for him and was slow in making drinks.  And fight over best telecaster pickguard from MF’s

    These reasons can be seen as simple and should not end to break up.  Negotiations, mutual understandings and how we communicate towards each other may help to reach a peaceful resolution.  Communication has not always easy.  Each family member plays different roles in the family system.  Each of these roles carries with it different responsibilities and expectations.

    3.3       Electronic Gadget and Social Media

    Electronic gadget and social media such as Facebook, twitter, Instagram, WhatsApp, just to name a few has been also blame for conflict and divorce rates in Malaysia.  As stated in The Star.com.my (14 January 2016), Dean of the Education Faculty, University Malaysia Associate Professor Dr Mariani Mohd Nor said WhatsApp have become a platform for young couples to express their anger during domestic conflicts and  cheat on their partners by befriending others.

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    It has been a trend that family create WhatsApp group for family, in my opinion it can be good for small family but for big family, texting can easily create conflicts.  Expressing or sharing information via messages in WhatsApp can give different perception and intonation from what is actually intended by the sender.

    3.4       Dealing with Children

    Having children and being a parent has never been easy.  From the birth of a baby, having more children, child going to school, child going through adolescent, choosing a college, and giving support on career are just some example of stages that can be potential conflict.  During these stages, there will be conflict and problems that family need to address and resolve.  Talking to children age 5 are different when talking to a teenager.

    Giving instruction or requesting help from a child, can too create conflict.  For example, a mother asking her child to help her with the dishes, rather than helping, her child gives excuses and this create conflict between a child and mother.

    Another example, if a family has a special child that need attention, this can create tension amongs family members especially husband and wife.  Dealing with special need can be stressful and teamwork from the family.

     

    3.5       Financial Circumstances

    Financial problems are one of the leading causes of divorce. A couple may feel overwhelmed by the amount of money they owe, which affects how much they can afford to do or buy for the family. Financial stress can also occur when a husband and wife disagree about how, where or when money is spent. Other family conflicts arise as a result of unemployment. When someone is out of work for a long period of time, she might feel anxious, depressed or ashamed, and such negative emotions can fuel arguments with her spouse.

    4.0       STRATEGIES TO AVOID OR REDUCE CONFLICTS

    We can’t escape ourselves from having conflict within the family unit but no matter how big or small the conflict is, there will always ways to solve it.  Nobody is perfect but how we communicate towards each other will help ease or resolve conflict.

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    Communication is the important tools among families therefore everyone should learn and improve their communication skills.   Here are some suggestions on how to improve communication.

     

    4.1       Be an Active Listener

    Here are the active listening skills;

    Be attentive and pay attention to the person speaking with you. Listen to what the person saying without interrupting.

    Respect the speaker and attention to both verbal and nonverbal clues. Body language, facial expressions, and posture can all provide a detailed picture of what’s going on.

    Avoid letting your personal preferences affect how you listen. Try to keep your personal beliefs from clouding the speaker’s statements.

    If you don’t understand what’s being said, clarify by asking questions and try not to become distracted or lose track of what’s being said.

    Give appropriate nonverbal clues. When you’re actively listening to someone, your body language will show whether you’re paying attention or not. Maintain eye contact while talking, this is to show that you are interested in listening. Nodding your head is another indication that you are focusing and listening.

    Lastly is to repeat back what you heard. This lets the speaker know that you’re really listening. Also, when you say what you understood, it gives them a chance to clarify any miscommunication.

    4.2       Communicate Frequently

    Make time to communicate with each other.  After a long work for parent and school for children, the only place family can sit and talk are while having dinner.  Learn to limit or keep gadget away when at home.  It is better to keep gadget, such as handphone when you are at home with family, this will allow you to have time to communicate with family members instead of texting or checking email or social media.

    Learn to say words of encouragement and show appreciation in daily communication within family. This will make family feel appreciated and love.  Have a reading time with family member and share about the book to each other, this not only create quality time but sharing informative and education.

    4.3.      Communicate Openly and Honestly

     

    It is good to use affective communications; it is the way individual family members share their emotions with one another, for example, expressing how sad they are in a situation.  Most Asian family may have a problem with affective communication compare to western family but nowadays healthy families all over the world able to express themselves openly.

    Communicate openly and honestly among family members will make it easier to understand how each other’s feel on certain issues.

    Expressing feeling openly, help ease stress and not hold grudges.  Share feelings of frustration with your spouse and receive suggestions in return will make relationship closer.  Communication using text, or expressing anger in the social media should be avoided.

     

    4.4.      Using the Right Language

    Everybody wants to be heard, every unit in a family has a needs and voice that requires attention.  A father wants respect from his family; a mother wants her children to obey her rules and children need attention and love.  Tension happened when we feel our children not listening to us, we want them to listen and act to what we asked them to do.  But when they don’t give the respond we want or give excuses, we feel stress.

    There is five love languages of children, there are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and act of service.  Once the parent understand their child’s primary love language, it will be easier for both child and parent to interact.  For example, if a child’s primary language is physical touch is to look at their face, hold his or her hand and tell them what to do.  A hug will make them feel better and for younger children, reading stories together with your child on your lap make them feel happy.

    There is another ways of communication that may help relationship amongst family.  That is using NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programing).  To be an effective communicator you need to learn & be always aware of the 3 human primary modes that people use to process thoughts during communication.

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    There are Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic.   Just like being right-handed primary, each of us uses one of the 3 modes as our primary form to convey messages during communication.  Understanding which one the person you are speaking with is using is a step forward to being a better communicator.  The moment you understand the type of person you are talking to, may it your parents, spouse or children, you can build rapport easily and communicate better.

     

     

    4.5.      Agreeing To Negotiate

    If we are too angry, we tend to shut our ear and heart to any explanation.  We don’t want to listen to explanation but only want to win in any argument.  It helps if everyone decides as a family to try listening to each other and negotiating instead.

    Try to separate the problem from the person and before getting into discussion, try to cool down first.  Remember that the other party isn’t obliged to always agree with you on everything but learn to calm.

    For example, if you sharing a home with your in-law, you need negotiate on certain things, for both families can stay in harmony.  Try to find points of common ground and at certain time we need to learn to agree to disagree.

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    This assignment has explained the important of communication in family, what are the factors contributing conflict among family member and some suggestions on how to avoid conflict.  In conclusion to this, conflicts such as learning to live as a family, marriage problem, financial problem, the use of electronic gadget and social media has been the reasons of separation and divorce. Sadly, divorce rate in Malaysia are getting higher each year.

    There is no problem without solutions; good communication is the best solution to deal with conflicts.   It is important for family to learn on effective communication.  In order to solve conflicts, learn to be an active listener.  Communicate frequently, openly and honestly is the key to healthy relationships among family members.   Agree to negotiate in a way will help family to stay in peace and harmony with each other.

    Dealing with children, from the start the child was born, adolescence, adulthood, choosing school and career are the conflict or issues a family go through by stages.  Understanding the right language to talk to different age children make it easier.  Learning to understand the type of person we communicate can also help family to communicate easy and better.

    To conclude, communication is an important tool in family relationship.  Open and honest communication is part of effective communication.  In order to have a good relationship, it is good for family to understand and learn to communicate effectively.

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