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    Day 3 in KL – Aquaria in KLCC

    We wanted to bring kids to the zoo .. we have been talking about it before the trip but we heard a lots of negative feedback.. so we decided to the Aquaria in KLCC.

    We went there on Monday… it was interesting, educational, informative, fun… what else.. enjoyable trip.

    kids loves to watch the fishes…

    We took video but i dont know how to download it here… well this picture should be enough to show that we had fun… next time you go to KL dont forget to go there.. its worth paying.

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    Helping Children Succeed in School

    Children spend one-half of their waking hours in school or school related activities.  Studeis show that children whose parents are involved in their education do better in school than children whose parents are not involved.  Parents’ involvement in their children’s education is a stronger indicator of their success in school than cultural background, sosio-economic level of the family, or natural individual level of academic capability.

    Two activities parents can do to help their children succeed in school are :

    Set up a study time at homeCompleting homework helps children learn and retain new information.  It imporves understanding and enhances academic performance.  Begin small and work towards the ideal setting.  Some helpful suggestions :

    Establish a central location

    Keep are quite and free of distractions

    Schedule time that best fits family routines

    Divide study time for children who have difficulty with concentration

    Have you child do their homework first before other activities

    Communicate effectively with your child’s school.  This may not be easy to do but can be extremely helpful to your child’s success.  Some helpful suggestions :

    When attending school activities, prepare yourself with questions or concern that you want to address.

    Begin communication when things are going well with your child.  give compliments to the teacher through notes or phone conversations. When there are problems, share concerns while they are small.  Ask how thing are going.

    An interesting article to share with all of you...Taken from Youth & Parenting (Daily Express, dated 11 March 2009)

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    25 Ways To Talk So Your Children Will Listen

    As a mother.. it is my duty to make sure my children listen to me.. and it is not easy to persuade them or to make them obey to you entirely… i always make my time to checkout information and ask Dr. Sears for guidance and the right techniques on handling children or teenagers….. don’t worry if you don’t have time to go there.. i will update you with articles that interest me and sure will help you parents out there… cheers!!

    25 WAYS TO TALK SO YOUR CHILDREN WILL LISTEN

    A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some talking tips we have learned with our children:

    1. Connect before you direct
    Before giving your child directions, squat to your child’s eye level and engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how to focus: “Mary, I need your eyes.” “Billy, I need your ears.” Offer the same body language when listening to the child. Be sure not to make your eye contact so intense that your child perceives it as controlling rather than connecting.

    2. Address the child
    Open your request with the child’s name, “Lauren, will you please…”

    3. Stay brief
    We use the one-sentence rule: Put the main directive in the opening sentence. The longer you ramble, the more likely your child is to become parent-deaf. Too much talking is a very common mistake when dialoging about an issue. It gives the child the feeling that you’re not quite sure what it is you want to say. If she can keep you talking she can get you sidetracked.

    4. Stay simple
    Use short sentences with one-syllable words. Listen to how kids communicate with each other and take note. When your child shows that glazed, disinterested look, you are no longer being understood.

    5. Ask your child to repeat the request back to you
    If he can’t, it’s too long or too complicated.

    6. Make an offer the child can’t refuse
    You can reason with a two or three-year-old, especially to avoid power struggles. “Get dressed so you can go outside and play.” Offer a reason for your request that is to the child’s advantage, and one that is difficult to refuse. This gives her a reason to move out of her power position and do what you want her to do.

    7. Be positive
    Instead of “no running,” try: “Inside we walk, outside you may run.”

    8. Begin your directives with “I want.”

    Instead of “Get down,” say “I want you to get down.” Instead of “Let Becky have a turn,” say “I want you to let Becky have a turn now.” This works well with children who want to please but don’t like being ordered. By saying “I want,” you give a reason for compliance rather than just an order.

    9. “When…then.”
    “When you get your teeth brushed, then we’ll begin the story.” “When your work is finished, then you can watch TV.” “When,” which implies that you expect obedience, works better than “if,” which suggests that the child has a choice when you don’t mean to give him one.

    10. Legs first, mouth second
    Instead of hollering, “Turn off the TV, it’s time for dinner!” walk into the room where your child is watching TV, join in with your child’s interests for a few minutes, and then, during a commercial break, have your child turn off the TV. Going to your child conveys you’re serious about your request; otherwise children interpret this as a mere preference.

    11. Give choices
    “Do you want to put your pajamas on or brush your teeth first?” “Red shirt or blue one?”

    12. Speak developmentally correctly
    The younger the child, the shorter and simpler your directives should be. Consider your child’s level of understanding. For example, a common error parents make is asking a three-year- old, “Why did you do that?” Most adults can’t always answer that question about their behavior. Try instead, “Let’s talk about what you did.”

    13. Speak socially correctly
    Even a two-year-old can learn “please.” Expect your child to be polite. Children shouldn’t feel manners are optional. Speak to your children the way you want them to speak to you.

    14. Speak psychologically correctly
    Threats and judgmental openers are likely to put the child on the defensive. “You” messages make a child clam up. “I” messages are non-accusing. Instead of “You’d better do this…” or “You must…,” try “I would like….” or “I am so pleased when you…” Instead of “You need to clear the table,” say “I need you to clear the table.” Don’t ask a leading question when a negative answer is not an option. “Will you please pick up your coat?” Just say, “Pick up your coat, please.”

    15. Write it
    Reminders can evolve into nagging so easily, especially for preteens who feel being told things puts them in the slave category. Without saying a word you can communicate anything you need said. Talk with a pad and pencil. Leave humorous notes for your child. Then sit back and watch it happen.

    16. Talk the child down
    The louder your child yells, the softer you respond. Let your child ventilate while you interject timely comments: “I understand” or “Can I help?” Sometimes just having a caring listener available will wind down the tantrum. If you come in at his level, you have two tantrums to deal with. Be the adult for him.

    17. Settle the listener
    Before giving your directive, restore emotional equilibrium, otherwise you are wasting your time. Nothing sinks in when a child is an emotional wreck.

    18. Replay your message
    Toddlers need to be told a thousand times. Children under two have difficulty internalizing your directives. Most three- year-olds begin to internalize directives so that what you ask begins to sink in. Do less and less repeating as your child gets older. Preteens regard repetition as nagging.

    19. Let your child complete the thought
    Instead of “Don’t leave your mess piled up,” try: “Matthew, think of where you want to store your soccer stuff.” Letting the child fill in the blanks is more likely to create a lasting lesson.

    20. Use rhyme rules.
    “If you hit, you must sit.” Get your child to repeat them.

    21. Give likable alternatives
    You can’t go by yourself to the park; but you can play in the neighbor’s yard.

    22. Give advance notice
    “We are leaving soon. Say bye-bye to the toys, bye-bye to the girls…”

    23. Open up a closed child
    Carefully chosen phrases open up closed little minds and mouths. Stick to topics that you know your child gets excited about. Ask questions that require more than a yes or no. Stick to specifics. Instead of “Did you have a good day at school today?” try “What is the most fun thing you did today?”

    24. Use “When you…I feel…because…”
    When you run away from mommy in the store I feel worried because you might get lost.

    25. Close the discussion
    If a matter is really closed to discussion, say so. “I’m not changing my mind about this. Sorry.” You’ll save wear and tear on both you and your child. Reserve your “I mean business” tone of voice for when you do.

    Good luck parents!! Cheers!!