My parents just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary last Saturday, 29 July 2017. While we, the family members preparing for the event, i myself busy preparing my mild autism asperger teen, in making sure he know what is going on and how to react on every situation.
After the celebration last Saturday, i should say its a success. I am happy the celebration has over but i am celebrating the achievement made by my son.
It bugs me when people tell me ‘biar saja‘ or ‘its okay, just let him be’. Maybe for work for other parents but not me, I don’t want my son to get too excited or too nervous which will lead to meltdown which will later regret and embarrassed him.
Autism especially asperger are no different from other typical kids, they too have feelings and dignity. They only need assistance and guidance in whatever they do.
Let me share what we did before the event last Saturday, probably this will help especially those with special needs child.
You will need at least 1 or two weeks to prepare especially if it’s a big event. Let him know what is the occasion about. When is it going to be held, how long and who are going to be there. Be specific and details as you can.
Most special needs has sensory problems so its good to prepare them using VAK (Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic) technique to get them fully understand.
Make it visual, as for my son i just tell him when and he will marked it on the calendar. I informed my son that there will be music and it might be loud sometimes. I also informed him that he can join any dance if he feels comfortable with, also reminded him that its okay if people look at him or laugh as it does not mean it meant for him.
You can show your child a picture of their cousins or a wedding picture with crowds just to give them ideas.
Look into their eyes when you speak in making sure your child know your child know you talking to her/him and it is important to listen. Your tone of voice and facial expression are important in sending them the message. You may need to be strict yet gentle at the same time.
Each day i reminded him about the event and keep on saying ‘I know you can do it’ and ‘remember to relax‘.
I let him know all his cousins and other people will be there and possibility of weather, noise etc. I told my son ..‘the venue might be long, weather might be warm, there will be music and it might be loud…but whatever it is you must relax’.
This is the fun part. We had a role-play of whats going to happened, for example how to interact with people. We did a role-play on how to react when someone come to him and how to introduce himself to others.
WHAT CAN AND CANNOT DO
I keep a reminder on what he can and cannot do. Some simple rules such as..if he is tired..uncomfortable he need to inform me or other family members..this to prevent meltdown. Shouting.. or any unnecessary action are prohibited in public..he may need to relax.
Remember they learn by rules and they will understand more if we keep on reminding..and it may become good habit.
ON THE BIG DAY
What happened on the big day was a success. My son introduced himself and was not ashamed. The moment there were music..he was dancing and when he hears his cousin sang he actually told me he wanted to sing..probably next time as he don’t really know what song to sing either. But he dance to every music beats..I was with him only at the first songs to make sure he feels comfortable..the rest is history.
I have been using essential oil for a year now and for those having sensory problems..such scents does helps but this does not heal autism. I believe certain essential oils such as vertiver and peace & calming does helps but make sure to apply at time there are ready and in a relax mood. Never apply essential oils when they are moody or having a meltdown.
THE GOOD AND BAD NEWS
Yes you just read our achievements ..isnt it good news? it takes 50% of all hardwork, commitment for the early preparations. 20% of the reminder, standby and commitment on that day, 10% of the essential oils scents that helps him keep calm and 20% of his own commitment, focus and self esteem. Bravo my son! We can do it..you can too.😊
Be remided that autism are just full of surprises..today i might succeed but tomorrow with many things that can triggers and things that of our control i might lose the battle.
Thats how it goes..just keep on sharing to others about autism and we will never feel alone and those with autism will feel accepted.
Always be ready with plans. If plan A does not work out..there will always other plans but never gives up.
Thanks for reading!
P/S – This is a sharing from my personal point of view as a mother and may not be right from the medical perspective. Every child with autism are different from each other..my tips may not work for others but there are no harm trying.
HEALTH AND WELL-BEING
Both my husband and I are working parents. Our children go to tuition centre every day after school, so whenever they reached home and after they took their baths, the first thing they do is grab some cookies or junk foods. My 10 years old daughter is a picky eater, she normally just eat soup with rice while my teenage son loves everything. We often eat outside due to our busy schedule and sometimes get the fast food delivery to our home.
The only time we can spend time is on Saturday but sometimes there are activities in their school and other functions we need to attend. With their busy schedule, I allow them play with computer and smart phone but only on Friday night and they will hand it back to me on Sunday.
IMPROVING HEALTH AND WELLNESS
THE ACTION PLAN
We cannot control all circumstances of our lives, we accept what beyond our control but we have to act on what can be control. I believe there is still always ways to improve my family health and wellness. Here is some list that I have plan;
It is not we have no time but we did not make some time for activities but I did not manage our time well. The first thing on my list is to manage our family time.
I already feel guilty for providing my children junk food in the shelf. I will start planning for a healthier meal diet for my family. There will be more vegetables, fish and nutrients foods on the menu. Less taking fast food and will be cooking healthier recipe, such as steam or soup.
According to Dr. Jullian Jessel (Well Being, page. 154) Regular exercise makes the metabolism more active, so calories are burned more quickly even when you are not exercising. It also stimulates the production of natural mind-calming chemicals in the blood. Most people find that exercise improves their mental powers and gives them more energy, and helps them to solve or put problems into perspective.
We use to walk at the recreational park but with our busy schedule, we have lots excuses not to exercise. I will make sure my family will have once a week walk in the park or other outdoor activity and will be starting doing yoga and brain gym at least 3 times a week.
More Quality Time, Less Gadget
I admit that I had less quality time with my family especially my children lately, allowing them playing with gadget is making it worse. I am not against gadget or video games but I will reduce their time and let them explore their hobbies more. Both my children loves art, there will be ‘art time’ at home, let them express their emotions through art and allowing them to share their thoughts.
Join Volunteering Club
Education is important but as parents, I believe social skills are equally important to instilled good value in children. Joining volunteering club will not teach them how to share and help others but will give them the sense of happiness.
It is good to reflect on our family health and wellness, as we can check what is wrong and what to be improved. As for me, regardless of my busy schedule, allowing my children play with gadget and buying fast food frequently already makes me feel quilt.
To improve my family health and wellness, I will manage our time, eat healthier meal, exercise more, spend more quality time, attending music class together at studio one artist and join volunteering club. Not only my family helps each other but also sharing to others too.
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Diabetes is a metabolic disorder affecting over 18 million people and is characterized by high blood glucose levels. Chronic elevation of blood glucose is associated with increased incidence of heart disease, kidney disease, nerve dysfuncyion, and eye damage. In fact diabetes is o ne of the leading causes of death in us and increasing.
There are two types of diabetes. Type I diabetes usually occurs in the young and is due to abnormally low levels of the hormone insulin; it is often called insulin-dependent diabetes. The cause o this type of diabetes is now thought to be the immune system’s destruction of the cells in the pancreas that produce insulin.
Type II diabetes often occurs in overweight, middle-aged adults due to reduction in the ability of insulin to transport glucose from the blood into cells. This form of diabetes generally is due to the lack of sensitivity of the cells to the action of insulin. Although the specific cause of the problem is not known, it is clear that obesity increases the severity of the disease. Because type II diabetics generally do not have a problem producing insulin, they generally do not require insulin treatment, and referred to as non-insulin-independent diabetes.
LIFESTYLE HABITS THAT CAN CAUSE OF DIABETES
Are you one of those people who eat when you feel sad, mad, stress and hopeless? Some people have the tendency to eat whatever they like when they are emotional. Emotional eating is not because of hungry but to just as comfort, the problem is the comfort food as they call it is mostly colourful and sweets foods, such as ice cream, cakes, donuts and everything nice. Emotional eating will make things bad, as this might cause diabetes type II.
In order to prevent emotional eating, you need to learn to identify your triggers and find ways to feed your feeling.You can also try one of the many ways to lower your blood sugar naturally. These include both fasting and postprandial blood glucose levels.
If you’re indulging in nighttime noshing on a regular basis, beware: This eating pattern causes blood sugar spikes and disrupts insulin secretion, a bad pattern if you want to prevent type 2 diabetes, according to research in the British Journal of Nutrition that looked at the effects of eating patterns on night workers. By having three balanced meals every day, you help stifle the urge to indulge at night and provide better control of your blood sugar, says Barb Klingler, RN, BSN, CDE, diabetes educator at the Washington University Diabetes Center at Barnes-Jewish Hospital.
If you love fish burger, you should start thinking to eat real fish that contain rich protein. Salmon, tuna, mackerel, and sardines are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which cut risk for heart disease and high blood pressure, keep arteries healthy, and are good for preventing diabetes, too, according to the American Heart Association. Try to get two servings every week.
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and when it comes to diabetes prevention, that’s especially true. Forgoing your morning meal not only tends to backfire, making you ravenous by late morning, but can also create the perfect storm for type 2 diabetes, says Ellen Calogeras, RD, LD, CDE, a diabetes educator with the Cleveland Clinic Diabetes Center. Starving yourself until lunch sets off a chain reaction that disrupts insulin levels and blood sugar control. Learn to take time to eat a simple, balanced meal.
There are two types of diabetes, that is type I and type II. Lifestyle habits, such as stress, emotional, busy and not being able to exercise lead to diabetes especially type II. Healthy diet and exercise can help avoiding yourself to be diabetic.
For those who are diabetic, it is important to take medication as prescribed and learn to control sugar in their daily diet.
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