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    Autism Awareness (I have a dream)

    I am aware its already the month of May and I am not sure why I cant finished writing this simple post which supposedly for autism awareness month in April.

    Lets share our knowledge and at the same time..learn more about autism not only in April but anytime throughout the years.

    Here what I have been writing and how we celebrated our autism awareness month this year.

    The Month of April

    The United Nations-sanctioned World Autism Awareness Day on April 2nd every year and the whole world celebrates April as World Autism Awareness Month.

    April is a special months to understand and learn more about autism. Autism-friendly events and educational activities take place throughout the month to increase understanding and acceptance and foster worldwide support.

    Light it up Blue!

    I don’t really have plan for Autism Awareness day or Month for this year except for collecting pictures from friends and families wearing blue attire as support to the special occassion besides sharing information in the social media.

    Music bring us together

    Its just sad that the world today is facing difficulties fighting the invisible enemies, Covid-19. And just like most part of the world, Malaysia implemented control order (MCO) whereas everyone has to stay home.

    Being at home, not much to do I got inspired by many compilation music videos i have received and seen in social media. I thought to myself..’why not do something different this time?”

    The project

    I was searching for the right song and I have a dream by ABBA seems to be perfect. It has beautiful and meaningful lyric.

    I started asking friends and family who wants to join and do the video with me and gave them their line to sing. Some say yes immediately and i keep on searching and asking those who are willing.

    At the same time I asked others for their picture wearing blue for the photos collections. I must say i never felt asking for support such as requesting photos can be difficult, a friend even told me she don’t have any family on the spectrum. Or its just a simple miscommunication, probably need a formal request in the future.

    I have been rejected in terms of businesses proposal but never simple request like this. But i determined to do this project, not only for my teenage son but also for everyone on the spectrum.

    When emotions runs high

    Have you ever felt so smart yet stupid at the same time? It happened when I tried my luck asking our Malaysian legendary singer, Ms. Francissca Peter to collaborate. What was I thinking? I wasnt sure if she agreed at that time.

    Everyone started sending in their videos including Ms. Francissca Peter. I was so excited and worried at the same time.

    Making the video was the best learning experience, as it can be frustruating sometimes especially when I cant figure out how, why and what about the video editing. Its a try and error method, and as a result it is a beautiful video I ever created.

    I have a dream

    I have a dream, you have a dream…lets make it come true!

    Enjoy this simple yet meaningful videoπŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

    Thank you beautiful people for making this happened!

    Thank you all for your support and visiting this blog. Will try to update again soon.

    Sincerely yours!

    Beautiza

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    Why He Choose Barber instead of Salon

    Trimming his hair during the weekend, his hair grow so fast. Looking at him sitting there reminds me how hard it was few years back.

    Long time ago when he was younger, having to bring him to to get his hair cut has always been a challenge.It was easier to cut/trimmed his hair when he was younger but as he was bigger, I am afraid Im going to give him a bad hair cut (which i did) and its troublesome to do hair cut at home.

    The Sensory Problem

    Our first attempt to get him a hair cut was at a salon when he was 6 or 7 years old. I thought bringing him to a salon, lady stylist will be a good help instead he had a meltdown, scream and tried to throw a chair.Having sensory problem makes him hates of the sound of the electronic hair trimmer.The smells of shampoo, hair dye and lots of liquid items related to hair treatment can probably affected their sensory.Some salon has lots of picture, decor, color that are very attractive but too striking for those with sensory problem. So I had to continue giving him hair cut at home while he watches the tv or use handphone for distraction.

    The Environment and Location

    Probably at the age of 10, we decided to bring him to a barber shop, the barber was an old man and the shop were very quite and not many people at the time. When he was sitting down, i remember my heart beat so fast and I prayed that he will sit still…and yes he did. It was a success!After the success story, we continue to get his hair cut at the same barber shop and even if the shop were full, we will patiently wait for our turn.Why he prefer barber than salon? The answer is..the environment …not much smell..not much visual distraction…its just plain SIMPLE.

    Little Step at a Time

    So yes that struggle is real but little step we make and the little step they take is a victory.

    “The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda.” John C. Maxwell

    Not like before going to the same barber shop, now we can choose any barber shop convenient, as long as its a barber shop.

    For parents with special needs, why dont you share with me your child’s hair cut experience.

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    Life is a Beautiful Journey

    Looking back 16 years ago when i became a mom to a cute 3.15kg baby boy. I was still in the operation room half ceaser. Its was a scary moment when i heard doctors talking to each other “the baby not crying!” faster..do something”! I heard foot step running..and within 10 minute i can hear a baby crying. I was relieved, everyone was relieved. My baby boy is so chubby and i remember his smell the first time i hold him..smell so nice. My Sean Matthew is my first born…and thats is the start of my journey of being a mother.

    Something is not right

    First time having a baby of my own but not a first time taking care of baby. We are the generations who become nanny to our relatives, taking care of our younger cousins during school holiday.

    There is something not right when a child became too active, too sensitive and doesnt want to play with other kids. As a mother this worries me.

    I know I have to do something, even though I was being denial. Just imagine when you are in a party, he will just scream just because he dont get what he wants or scream and lie down on the floor in a restaurant because he thought the people in front was looking and talking about him. That is just a two examples of many situations we faced.

    It was embarrasing, stressful and i might be into depression (didnt get myself check). As i know its not normal to have feeling to jump from my 2nd floor apartment, crying without reason and became worse after my second child was born. I was mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted.

    The Blaming Game

    The cozy home became war zone. Love became hate. There are nothing good to see anymore, everything focus on the bad and the wrong.

    Then I wanted to do something different, i want to change!we want change!

    To understand something you need to learn about it. Mr. Google has become my good buddy and references. Seeking informormation and knowledge from parenting, special needs and self development. How to control stress? understand emotions….and how to be a good mother?…”change anything you want to be with NLP”.

    I packed my bag and took my NS-NLP Certification in KL for 7 days in 2010. Its a complicated things but i slowly understood the way it works once i applied it in my life..to myself and my family.

    I didnt stop learning, attending seminar and courses related to special needs and children to be general. Outdoor Play and Certified Teacher Yoga for Kids.

    After attended seminars, I then realized there are NLP technique being used in other therapy but the only different is the terms they used.

    I did my own research and applied it my son, from how to control his tantrum/meltdown, how to relax, how to get ready for big event and so on.

    There are so many Certified NLP Trainers in Malaysia and even Master NLP Trainer in Sabah. I am not sure how many can use their NLP knkwledge to help you as what i did is all through my own experience.

    Do check out this Tips to get Autism ready for social gathering.

    Should you need my assistant, please do not be hesitate to email me at beautiza@gmail.com