BEAUTIZA

This is a bit late… but i post it anyway..we had a small and simple 3 in 1 celebration on the 30th Dec last year…. Xmas, New Year and Birthday party for staff born in November and December.

We even had exchange gifts..the rules must be RM10 and above… i got table cloth.. nice one..i was one of the luckiest..most of my friends got towel..hehe…

Can you imagine if somebody give a car as a gift definitely need to use good sam motorhome towing …

Here are some pics, courtesy of  my friend Maznah@mimi and Siti Dharizah.

posing with our gifts… eza, mimi, asiah..and me…guess who got the towel?

pose..pose..pose..

with our own..Siti Dharizah..

A few of the beautiful ladies in our office…in one department.

Of all pictures… i love this the best..i wouldn’t know what we were talking about.. gossip? no… we dont gossip…  must be something funny.. hehe.

It was a simple and wonderful celebration.. we had a great time..eating ..thats the best part.

Peace and Love to all,

Beautiza.

The law of beauty is actually simple.. . just follow the basic..at least twice a day.. morning and night before go to sleep..follow these 3 steps of cleansing your face..

1. Cleansing
2. Toning
3. Moisturizing

Once a week,try to…

1. Mask – put a mask on.. there are so many mask we need for our skin..to get a radiant skin..
2. Exfoliate/ Scrub – the use of exfoliator is to peel and get rid of the dead skin..

Okay that is for the skin…it is also important to take care of our eyes, lips and neck..

1. We need to use the under eye cream….reduce the wrinkles..and to refresh tired looking eyes..
2. For the lips.. we need lip balm and also gentle exfoliator for the lips..
3. Neck… apply firming neck cream

If you follow this beauty regimes.. you are on your way to perfection..  good for you!..i skip most of the time… hehe.. okay that is taking care our skin from outside..from inside.. drink plenty of water..eat lots of fruits, reduce intake of oily foods, get rid of hatred.. more love.. and forgiveness.. pray for others..appreciating life… and SMILE!…beauty reflects what you are from inside… keep saying to yourself..that you are Beautiful!!

Love.. Beautiza

Arggg… diet…diet… i really need to get healthy.. that is my resolution for next year.. ..few weeks more to a new year..wow.  I really need to keep myself fit, healthy, stay in shape.. got to lose belly fat.. arrgh.. that is my major problem.

I need to change my habit and start adding a new routine… not sure how..but i really have to change these …

• sleep early rather than sleep night doing blogging.. i need to reschedule my blogging time,
• drink fruit juice and try to reduce or stop drinking nescafe.. (i am so addicted to caffeine),
• got to eat lots of fruits and vegetables..rather than taking fast foods..and junk foods
• cook healthy recipe …steam, boil..rather than.. fried..fried..fried..ohh that oil.
• bring food from home.. rather than..buying..we know better what we cook (got to wake up early though..)

and most of all… need to exercise..exercise…that will be part of my diet.  I will make sure my whole family get benefit from this.. well lets get it started!

Fresh vegetables… for me and you..will not only make us healthy but also a beauty skin..and  for our brain… good memories for study.

Exercise and drink fruit juices…energize!

I have been thinking to further study..but  juggling with career, family.. taking care of my children and study… sleep late to study.. get dark circles under eyes for not having enough sleep…can i do that? and i said to myself  ‘i am too old to study’..too old? how old is too old?  learning is a continuous process..that’s the purpose to live.. that’s what we always keep in mind.

I saw a picture of  this wonderful lady being congratulate by her family in the newspaper… she just graduated .. i thought.. ‘oh my, she can’t be serious’.. She is a busy woman…with her family, politics and business… how on earth she can sit and study? not only that.. she managed to obtain Deans list for 8 semesters.. and 1st Class Honours in  Bachelor of Management.

She really inspires me.. and for sure women out there.. no matter how old you are.. how busy you are …if you want to achieve what you really wanted in life.. you can! nobody can stop you.. you  have the will power to go through the challenges, to be where you want to be.

My post recently ‘My Inspiration’.. inspired me  to get close to this bright, beautiful.. and wonderful woman…she just celebrated her 51st birthday in July this year….her name is Datin Aminah Ambrose (Eugene Dumpangol) i love to get her story and share it with you.  This is my first interview… she have been very kind and willing to spare few minutes of her busy schedule to be interviewed.

What/who inspires you to study?

Hi, I attended a seminar ‘Breaking the Glass Ceiling’ organised by Yayasan Sabah..(Hjh Patmawati) held at Shangri-La Tg Aru -one of the presenters was Prof. Dr. Mornie (UNITAR Adjunct Professor) Head of SIDMA(Unitar Sabah Branch), he inspired me to continue my studies and ‘The Break Through” and also another presenter was Datuk Adeline Leong ..she too inspired me to go forward and make time for ourselves and achieve our self-actualization.

You are always busy with welfare & Charity, what makes you feel like studying?

Oh Yes I was actively involved in Welfare & Charity works and was awarded the ‘Tokoh Kebajikan Negeri Sabah 2005” and also received a “Gold-award” in-conjuction with the 50th Golden jubilee of the Majlis Kebajikan Negeri. My husband (Datuk Amirkahar Tun Mustapha) told me to do something for myself as I had been working to help others. As I mentioned earlier about the motivation seminar that I attended, in July 2006 I went to see Prof.Dr. Mornie and enrolled myself as a ‘part-time’ student but I became a full time student as I attended the ‘face to face’ classes did my own assignments, participated in group assignments & other activities. In UNITAR, it is convenient for me as the notes are available through ‘VOISS. It’s the virtual system so I am able to get notes/updates communicated with course leaders/lecturers even though I am not in class.  This helped me tremendously as the VOISS has other functions such as e-library, emails, discussion boards, etc.

What course did you took?

Bachelor of Management (Hons); it is a 3 year program started from August 2006 -Jan 09..graduated on 31st Oct 2009… Initially, I just followed what subjects was given but once I knew that I can more than 4 subjects as I had more than 3.5 CPGA, so took 4 – 5 subjects per semester..Challenging but managed to get Dean’s almost all semesters.  Amazing!

What did your family reaction when you decided to further study?

My hubby & children supported me all the way, they were very understanding– especially my hubby as I had to burn the ‘midnight oil’ spend time in my study room –doing my assignment(s)/preparing my paper; especially before semester exams I will be spending time- hours revising and attempt to answer all past questions from previous years…I guess all my hard work has brought about this good results.  During exam time my hubby will be my alarm he will wake up when I tell him that I need to wake up say 4am if I have a paper the next morning so that I have time to revise again.

Why now and who is your role-model or hero?
To me, “Learning is a life-long process” and age is only a number not a hindrance. I prefer my heroes to be more skillful and accomplished than I am, so I can be inspired to emulate them by doing something on the scale of what they have done.

What is important to you?
Understanding what is important, what gives meaning to our lives is the compass to finding our purpose. I strongly believe that “Values” are the guideposts to purpose.”

What were your biggest challenges?

Aside from the normal challenges that after 30 plus years leaving the academic field and only at age 48 then begin to start studying again—I ask myself whether I am ready to go to another level? After considering, I told myself that if I am going to succeed, I must commit myself, align my life and my sense of purpose…Aim high with commitment.

I heard about the tragedy in your family, how did you face the challenge?

The biggest challenge was when my son was found dead upon arrival at QEH, I received a call at 7.38am 1st Dec ‘ 07, from his fiancee’s mum informing me that my son had a heart attack and was in critical condition, she told me to rush to the Hospital..I called back to ask which hospital but no answer so I ’sms’ her (Sheena’s hfon) as that’s the number she used and the sms reply was Emergency Queen..so I rushed there with my maid and 2 wanita members.. I got a shock when I pulled the curtain in the emergency room and found my son has bruises & cuts had already died and his body was so ‘icy cold’ like he was in a refrigerator…how come he is so cold ..he was still alive that was what I was told by Sheena’s mum..’cepat tidak lama lagi ni’ still ringing in my head…I shouted at the doctor and questioned him; I remember shouting, “ my son did not die of a heart attack ..he has been battered to death!”. I can’t forget that tragic moment.
You know, soon after his funeral, the ‘kenduris’, I think it was 12 days later that I had to take my first final paper for the 4th semester. It was English 3 and I remembered going early to avoid people but still some did offer their ‘condolences’ and this made me feel worst as I couldn’t take it. I was crying throughout the exams. A few days later, I had to sit for Management Guru & Quality, Fundamental of Strategic Management, Introduction to Futures Studies. Honestly, I don’t know where I got the strength, courage and recall memory to answer the questions..but deep down I knew that he was praying for me as well as he knew I was studying for my exams when I last saw him -and he gave me a Chocolate shake that he had prepared with his cousin Melissa for me to taste. Obtaining good results for the 4th semester also made me realized that I had the inner strength that I thought I never had.

Without the focus, prayers and  support from family members especially my beloved husband and children, I don’t know whether I would have succeeded..Syukur Alhamdulillah…Al-Fatihah to my late son, Datu Azlan.

What is your advice to other women?
To quote Robert Kennedy –“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” When we understand our purpose, all the challenging experiences of our lives serve to forge identity, character and meaning. Although life may be challenging, every experience becomes our teacher, and every challenge an opportunity through which we learn and live more purposefully. Awareness of our purpose, allows us to see our lives more clearly from the inside-out.
Never give up. Dare to fail. Follow your decisions with Action, whether things are ideal or not; success comes in the Doing.

Thank you Datin for your time, i wish you all the best in whatever you do.

You are most welcome and thank you for asking and considering me in your blog.

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There you got it… my first interview.. for ‘The Inspiration’ and ‘Woman’s Mind’…there will be more to come.

Do you think a comedian have great, fun, happy life? how about actors/actresses… are they on top of the world thinking of nothing… without problem?  Do they cry?  well.. they are just  human like you and me.. they perform to make us laugh.. happy…that’s their job.

I remember 10 years ago.. i received  at 12.00 midnight.. my friend (a guy) telling me he saw his girlfriend with someone else.. and he was crying.. damn.. that’s sucks big time.. but that was his feeling.. he can’t control his emotion.. so i just listened.. and well i can’t remember what advice i have given him.. i hope a good one.

To me.. hiding a feeling is difficult.. i have experience being so frustrated, betrayed but i need to have the smiling face.. the ‘happy go lucky attitude’.. i got to hide the feeling.. oh man.. it’s hard to do.. but i did it.. i feel like crying..but i keep on smiling.. hiding the feeling.. the emotion.. keeping it inside of me.. 5 minutes seems to be like hours.. and i continued for days.. until i really got the feeling out of me.

A friend once told me, she felt so down, upset, betrayed.. i told her to calm down, take it easy..  and just to let it out.. ‘cry’..  indeed she told me..while writing to me via YM she was crying out loud.. (she was at home) i can’t imagine she cried in the office.

Mistakes through my experiences taught me the true meaning of life.. once you feel the betrayal and hurts, you learn to go on… but i never regret.. that become a journal in my life.

We cries.. when we are sad.. in grief..broken heart.. to let our emotion out.. its alright to cry.. we cry when we happy.. don’t we?   So if you feel like crying.. let it out.. don’t keep it inside…

If somebody betrayed you.. you just imagine.. your tears represent your sadness, your hurts, how much you hate the person.. and after you have done with your crying.. you will feel ‘aaah what a relief‘..gone all the sadness and move on with your life.. and try to accept things in a positive view… to remain your beauty from inside is to accept.. and to clear all source of negatives energy.. don’t let hatred get into you.

Okay.. enough with the crying things.. give me plasma tvs and make my day… give me a jokes to brighten my day!

Hehe.. i simply put ‘Desperate Best Friends’…hehe..because  we were so desperate to meet each other….our best friend Cay is working in KL the only time we can meet her is when she came back to KK for holiday that is in December.. or whenever we go to KL but usually we were busy with family.   She was here for a two days seminar.. came down alone..so we took advantage to meet everybody last Friday(30 Oct 09).

We called each other set time and place…we managed to get together without our best friend Flora who are now working in Brunei..never seen or get in touch with her..mmm..i can’t remember when.

The five of us have been together since 1993 taking our  Diploma in Secretarial Science Students in ITM Menggatal..

Look at this picture..taken during our presentation..if i’m not mistaken this is in 1995.

can you spot which one is me? hehe.. from left.. shirley, flora, cay, felecity and collete.

This picture below.. im not sure when … i assume its around 1998 0r 1999 .. im just guessing..can’t remember.. but we still hang out after we leave ITM.

enjoying our single ladies moments…hehe

THE BEFORE

And this picture below..taken recently.. without our big sister..Flora.. Fele had checked in the directory submissions and managed to get her email.. but our Flora is a busy woman ..busy .. as before.

Can you spot the different.. before and after.. hehe.. who still mantain.. and who terlebih? oops again.

THE AFTER

The mummies.. yaii.. still like before.. talk loud.. lupa diri whenever we meet up.

Colette, the steady..happy go lucky..smile always.. and laugh a lot.. and Cay… now she the mama type.. hehe.. she become our big sister..

me… what can i say about me.. u ask them.. they know about me sometimes more than i do.. and Fele….lovable.. smile always.. concern sister.. sensitive a bit.. but dont mess with her.. hehe

We still mantain our friendship.. until now we still keep and share our secret..oops.. the secret part.. if i die.. ask them..they hold my secret..but they don’t have my money.. but if i strike jackpot for sure these ladies will get their part from me.

Friendship will last forever… she listen, she speak up, she fight, she make up.. if i don’t know what to do.. i know who i can talk to.. my Best friends! Love you ladies.. God Bless!