Our mind has been programmed for perfection. Since childhood, our parents will push us to study hard to get a good grade, great job and good salary. A perfect life in on how everyone sees it, and from there we learn to make everything perfect. When we get a ‘B’, parents or teachers might say, “you can do better than that” instead of saying “you did well”. If you get a ‘C’ you are seen as a failure. The school even created a system where smart students will be in the best class, we teaching discrimination from early age and perfect students are those with ‘flying colors’. They, then tend to be scared to fail. They strive to be perfect in school.
As we grow older, we are influence by the fairy tales and wonderful romantic movie, of course the story always ends with ‘happily ever after’. We search high and low for rich, romantic, kind, loving spouse, another perfect expectation. Some would seek for a man who can sing, sing as he proposed, oh wow! that is indeed perfectly romantic.
For I am too, expect perfection in life but I realize when I am married, looking for perfection can only stress me. When I realize imperfection in my life, I keep asking questions on ‘why?’ I am becoming denial and unable to accept certain things.
I come to realize that, you don’t have to try hard to be perfect, just be content and happy. Be content, with such things you have NOW, not what you had the past or what you want, tomorrow. As much as we want bigger house, living in a small cozy apartment is wonderful, it is not a big house but it is still a ‘home’. Teach our children about having the attitude of gratitude and always remind each other that we should always count our blessings.
Be content, your spouse is not perfect in your eyes but ask yourself ‘am I perfect?’ your both imperfection are join together to create a perfect couple and a wonderful family. Then again you will see imperfection in your children, rejoice! God gave you children.
We learn to ask for “more” much sooner than they learn to be satisfied. They are far more ready to cry for what they want, than to say “thank you” when they have got it.
Seek it not in wealth, seek it not in pleasure, nor in friends, nor in learning. Seek it in having a will in perfect harmony with the will of God. The only perfection we need to improve is our relationship with God… though He will be the one we seek.
Embrace imperfection and learn to be content, you will find more peace and happiness in you and more love you could spread to others.
“It’s made me realize that imperfect is perfectly comfortable to me. Whether it’s a city or my apartment, I feel most at home when things are somewhat flawed.” ― Hoda Kotb, Hoda: How I Survived War Zones, Bad Hair, Cancer, and Kathie Lee