I read in a report in Berita Harian and an article written in Star in October. It reported that… Mental and psychological torture by their husbands have driven many women to seek divorce.
…” Reasons given to dissolve their marriages include the failure of husbands to fulfill their marital obligations, and using words and actions that were degrading and insulting to the wives and their family. Even the word like “Whore” can inflict mental anguish on wives, leadint to the end of a blissful relationship. Under Islamic laws, the women can seek fasakh – which is the dissolution of marriage to any valid reason. From 2008 to last year, the number of women seeking fasakh had exceeded 14,400 ….”.
“……Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law. It claims to break the contract, to which the spouses freely consented, to live with each other until death. Sacramental marriage is the sign of the covenant of salvation, to which divorce does incredible injury.. ……..”
“…..The Church responds by saying: “The Lord Jesus insisted on the original intention of the Creator who willed that marriage be indissoluble. He abrogates the accommodations that had slipped into the old Law. Between the baptized, ‘a ratified and consummated marriage cannot be dissolved by any human power or for any reason other than death.’”….
quoted from http://www.archden.org
The word ”divorce’ is taboo in our communities… and for Catholics..the statement above mentioned about it. I am not trying to discuss about religion or belief, and not trying to offend anybody or judge anyone on this matter.
Why do write about this ‘taboo’ or ‘sensitive issues’? It is easy for others to judge those who have been through this..and it is always the negative side they see and talk about.
More and more organizations are trying to help in solving ‘divorce’ issues, through family talks etc. It won’t happened unless both parties (husband and wife) understand their meanings and needs. One unpopular organization trying to tackle ‘Sex issues’ on this matters. I believe sex is important but don’t they realize about ‘the emptiness’ .. not money, not sex, material.. but that simple appreciation.. don’t we all need that?
Calling your wife ‘whore’ ‘bitch’ ‘sundal’ ‘sial’…. are just as terrible as hitting them.. If you hit them hard and they get bruises all over.. physical abuse ya.. it is.. sooner or later the mark will disappear and people can help these wives..who have been physically abuse. What about those who have mentally abused? nobody knows.. unless she talk about it… and this is what i am trying to say.. somehow.. she might give in or GIVE UP!
Think of the beautiful moment
For those who say the word as ‘no meaning’… please wake up!.. you don’t have to attend any marriage courses or whatsoever.. just read..and learn what to do and how to protect your marriage. Probably from now on start thinking of gift ideas for their special day … your wedding anniversary, birthday or anything..surprise her.