• Article from newspapers,  education,  Sharing Information,  Tips

    How to be Confident

    We are all humans and have flaws.  Even if your physical appearance, unique personality, or social skills aren’t what you wish they were, that doesn’t have to stop you from being confident.  Confidence translated literally from Latin means ” to have faith in oneself”.  you are beautiful inside and out so you should love yourself unconditionally.  Here’s how to believe in yourself :

    1. Think for yourself.  Very confident people know what they are doing is right, usually because they created an original thought rather than attempting to reproduce from an external source.
    2. Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good.  focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed.  It doesn’t have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life.  Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
    3. Find your passion.  Whether it’s baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musicianship, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognising what you enjoy doing the most.  More importantly, you’ll be enjoying your progress.
    4. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous.  Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and spiritual.
    5. Focus on others. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others may perceive you . Instead, focus more on the outside world rather than just your internal world, and that will build your confidence as other people start enjoying your company.
    6. Accept compliments gracefully.  Don’t roll your eyes and say, “yeah, right,” or shrug it off.  Take it to heart and respond positively (“Thank you” and a smile works well).  Know that you have important things to say and do.  When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people.  Be yourself.
    7. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet.  Don’t abuse your body, don’t overload it, and don’t deny it any of the things it needs.  Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance.  In order to be truly confident, you absolutely must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
    8. Work out.  This is a real fast change.  The gym can transform even the last geek.  It will help you be who you are, and not be afraid of it.  that’s the real confidence.  Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly.  Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more “worthy” you could say, to talk to others and to be yourself.
    9. Stick up for yourself.  If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way,) then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone – most of all yourself.  This may, at first, be hard to do.  But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
    10. Celebrate your individuality.  If you know you’ve got something special or different, then embrace it; don’t hide it.  that’s diversity.  you may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinner, stronger, whatever the case may be.  But you need to realise that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn’t be who you are.  “What am I?”  you ask; the answer’s easy : you’re a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
    11. Take action.  It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be.  and the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand.  It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months.  It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interest you that you haven’t done yet.  Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
    12. Make eye contact with others, especially when engaging in conversation.  Gaze into the other person’s eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident.  Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry and scared.
    13. Smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident.  You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed.

    Sharing with you article from NST, dated August 11, 2010.

  • Article from newspapers,  Reflection of life,  Sharing Information

    How to be Happy in Life

    Happiness is a choice.  Unhappy people struggle with judging themselves for not being able to easily shift to a happy state of mind.  Here are some specific tips you can blend into your every day life :

    • Smile a lot – There are enough smiling muscles involved for your brain to think you re smiling and start producing “happy” chemicals.
    • Sing! – Singing works just like smiling, causing your body to produce “feeling good” chemicals.  Sing in the car, sing in the shower, sing when you feel frustrated and notice how the negative feelings melt away.
    • Hang around positive people – Having happy people around you will make it easy to learn happiness.  Happy people have fun around them.
    • Get a move on -Being physically active makes you happy.  Find some activity you like to do and notice how it changes you mood : including any kind of sport, dance and yoga.  Make a habit of being active in any way you feel like.
    • Get creative – Creativity is a great way to find happiness.  Paint, draw, dance, sculpt, cook, write poetry or tend the garden.  Tap into your creative abilities and find your “happy sport”.
    • Act like a child – Do childish things to feel young and fresh.  Remember, “We do not stop playing because we grow old.  We grow old because we stop playing”.
    • Be kind – Do random acts of kindness every day.  It can be as simple as saying something nice, offering help, or giving up your place in a queue.
    • Be grateful – Practice gratitude : say thank you for everything you have and appreciate in your life.

    Article from NST, interesting and I hope this tips will help you to be happy in life.

    You don’t seek happiness, it is not material, happiness is how you want it to be and feel, its in your state of mind.


  • Family,  My Inspiration,  Personal,  Reflection of life,  Relationship,  usinku

    Appreciate Before Its too Late

    Appreciate! Appreciate!… what a simple word..say it out loud again… APPRECIATE! Easy to pronounce but believe it or not it is not easy to do. To appreciate what we have, appreciate where we are now, appreciate our relationship with those we love.. our spouse, family and friends and even to appreciate the tiny little things they did for us. We tend to forget to say that little appreciation to others .. as little as ‘thank you’ or ‘nice of you‘ and we on the other hand, wanting to hear these words. We don’t need to know if the person need to be appreciated or not, it come naturally from you, your sincerity.

    I realized that when we go through something terribly wrong, then we naturally appreciate who and what we have. Take myself as an example, I always concern about how i look and feel uncomfortable if don’t look good especially when going out but during my 2 weeks quarantine because of chicken pox, i want to imagine my looks without that eekey red dots on my face, i appreciate my imperfection. I often feel my husband’s lack of concern and appreciation towards me but during that weeks, he really took good care of me and for few days he had to travel a long way to check on my children at my parents house without complaints. I realized my parents love and concern for always being there for my family and take care of my children during the weeks.

    Being alone at home, giving me the opportunity to read my collections of e-books, I wanted to forget about the chicken pox, I was on my netbook most of the time, staring the monitor was my daily routine, i can actually do a netbook reviews.  Anyway, despite the itchy, uneasy, red dotes, I do appreciate the moment of being alone.

    Since then, I am a natural in appreciating others, I then realized when you appreciate the tiny things they have done to you, in return you get appreciated, sometimes not by words but by how they looks at you..their ‘smile’.

    Start appreciating before its too late!